<p>Hello, I thought I'd get the parents' perspectives on this one since you might have a greater understanding of the problem than I. </p>
<pre><code> Im dating Lisa. Her GPA and SAT scores are abysmal. Thats irrelevant, but this is CC so I thought you guys would want to know :)
The problem Im having is with Lisas mom (LM). For the life of me, I cannot figure out LM. She is extremely overprotective. She is still very afraid that her 17 year old daughter will be kidnapped (and she lives in a very nice neighborhood.) She will not allow me to drive her anywhere. For the most part, her 19 year old brother follows us around on dates. Lisa was homeschooled until 6th grade due to this overprotectiveness and need for control (this is also what destroyed any potential she once had in math and negatively affected her social skills.)
LM utilizes emotional warfare as her primary parenting tactic. Whenever Lisa does something she doesnt approve of, she will say some hurtful things, which Lisa is amazingly receptive to. By amazingly receptive, I mean that she *ing cries and submits, every time. Once, this even caused her to attempt suicide. While thats disgusting in its own right, its even more despicable when she uses it. She does it when Lisa talks to me too much, saying that she shouldnt get too hot and heavy ( does that mean?) and that shes neglecting her responsibility as a daughter and sister by not hanging out with the family 247 (who treat her like ****). Summer started a few weeks ago, and LM told Lisa that she didnt want her to see me more than 2 times a week (even though neither of us are doing anything). Recently, LM has taken Lisas phone (and other communication devices) and will only give it to her for about an hour for which we can talk per day.
All of this ******** aside, Im just trying to figure LM out. Does she just hate me? I am much more respectable and nice than her previous boyfriends and both Lisa and LM say that LM likes me. Does she not want her daughter to date anyone? She has a sister who is 22 and still lives at home she is emotionally crippled and antisocial, likely by her mother. Is she just insane?
All prejudices aside, LM is very Spanish (grew up in Puerto Rico) and very Catholic (works for the Church hasnt missed a service in years.)
What are LMs motives? And more importantly, once I find that out, what can I or Lisa do about it? Can you guys please just explain to me what might be going through her head?
<p>PS - If you would like any additional details, just ask. Thank you for any help. This has been really bothering me and I think parents might be the best people to ask in this situation.</p>