Oh, we all were in the bedroom doing our best to talk him into going to the hospital right after it happened.
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But even post incident. This was a decently notable health incident. Your husband seems very healthy but the mental load post incident for you at least is not unreasonable to want to rule out any medical follow up.
Sometimes my husband is more receptive to my kids prodding than me prodding him.
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I agree, and will talk more today. But I know when it seems like nagging to him and he tunes out.
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How very scary! Praying your husband will agree to see the doctor ASAP and you get some answers!
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TIAs etc can act like this. Ask your husband if you two can review your life insurance policy or just do it with him. He needs to understand that if he doesn’t take care of himself you still need to take care of your family. A friend did this and her hubby went to the doctor right away. Message received. I hope he gets better soon.
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I have been to emergency rooms with my mom a few times. I hated it every time, especially in nyc. At the same time, they do complete tests and they get the specialists involved.
Last time we were there it was because her cardiologist told us to go to get a pacemaker put in asap. Her doctor said if she were schedule it it would take a week, but if we went to the emergency room then it could be done right away. We were very glad we did because they did every test to make sure she was fine, aside from her irregularities of heart beat.
My mom has Medicare and federal government BCBS. She didn’t have to pay anything out of pocket. Medicare also paid for home care, nurse visits, and physical therapist.
I hate doctor visits too, but I want to be around for my kids and grandkids. Recently when I had spike on my blood pressure, I went in right away to get a complete blood work done. Tell your H that he owes it to you and your kids.
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This!
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And this. I would absolutely send the message through MyChart, at the very least, if he is going to be stubborn. Getting his doctor’s take on it would be very useful.
In reference to the other post saying that this could have been a TIA, for those who think a TIA is not a big deal because there isn’t any permanent damage, a TIA is often a precursor to the big one.
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I have no idea who his internist is.
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Oh my.
Re communication with HIS doctor…hoping one of the medical professionals chimes in…but I don’t believe the doctor will talk to you about this health concern via my chart or any other way…without written consent from your husband.
@fiftyfifty1 @Knowsstuff might know.
My husband’s PCP was a personal friend. No conversation at all with me about my husband and medical issues he had treated or potentially might treat.
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Here’s what I do, and it’s always with my husband’s permission. He’s generally too lazy to send a question to his PCP or any doctor, and I’m always more concerned about things. I compose an email to the doctor on his MyChart, read it to him, and say, “Is this okay?” He okays it, I send it, and it’s signed from him, not me, so they always answer it.
I’m the nosy wife, trying to get answers, trying to keep him healthy and alive. It used to bother him, but now he appreciates getting the answers without doing the work.
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Does he have access to MyChart? All of his doctors would be on there.
That sounds like something I would do. BUT, since my husband’s brother had a sextuple bypass and my husband found out he has coronary artery issues also, he pays more attention.
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Due to HIPAA, a family member’s practitioner cannot reveal information without the patient’s permission but they are permitted to listen to anyone in the patient’s life.
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I also end up typing in to my husband’s medical portal any questions he has (with him dictating). It is also very likely that a spouse would have a HIPA form already in place that allows them access.
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I’d have threatened divorce if my husband had refused to go to the ER after that. I’m sure he was feeling so badly that he didn’t want to possibly wait for hours, but it’s illogical considering the circumstances.
I didn’t mean for @conmama to message the doc through MyChart - I meant her husband - it’s sort of the least he can do to appease his wife/family!
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I agree, and I’m often the person who is the “scribe.” I help H craft messages and communicate with his medical team. I also have been accompanying him to his medical appointments for the past year or so, so they all know me and I know them. Prior to that, I didn’t know much of his team but always knew who is primary care MD was.
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Now that you have waited so long I encourage you not to message anyone in my chart. Call the office tomorrow and tell Them exactly what happened. They will tell you next steps.
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I am sure that I know my husband’s medical history far better than he does, and am much more invested in knowing and investigating every little thing. I think it’s just not that interesting to him, as he feels he’s very fit and healthy, so he quickly forgets things. But I don’t. 
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