My husband is GONE and I need TO SCREAM/crabbylady support thread (merger of threads)

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<p>When my dad died suddenly, my mom took it in stages. When she finally felt able to go through his things, she gave some special things away to family and friends, and then she boxed everything else up and put it in a corner of the basement. It was not constantly present, but she did not completely get rid of everything. It was a comfort knowing the things were still there if she needed them (she didn’t). Finally, (I think it was several years later), she was able to give the clothes away to charity and again give away a few more things.</p>

<p>We are all thinking of you both.</p>

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<p>Crabbylady and lkf725, this just takes my breath away. Bless you both. Ask for help, rely on friends and family. You both are in my prayers.</p>

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<p>Lkf725, I missed your post before Christmas; it was such a busy time. Please allow me to offer my hearlfelt sympathy. I simply cannot imagine what it would be like to suddenly lose my husband. He is my best friend, my love, my life. Of course I could make it without him … but it sure would be lonely. You will join Crabbylady in my thoughts and prayers.</p>

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<p>Our thoughts & prayers are with you and your children, crabbylady.</p>

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<p>I don’t know how I missed rereading this thread… I am SO sorry, lkf. I hope you have friends and family around to help you sort out and handle this awful life change. :(</p>

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<p>Dear Crabbylady & LKF, thank you for sharing here. I think of both of you often.
You are both strong and courageous women, whether you feel that way at the moment or not, and your children are blessed to have you to help them thru this.</p>

<p>Best wishes to both of you.</p>

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<p>Peace and prayers sent out to crabbylady and lfk.
Lfk – maybe just try the therapist and the meds? You can always stop but it might be what gets you through.</p>

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<p>Crabby Lady and LKF, you and your families are in my thoughts and prayers daily. Thank you for the reminder not to let the toothpaste on the mirror and the toilet seat bug me. You are both very brave! HUGS!</p>

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<p>Thinking of you missing your valentine today. We still have you in our thoughts for healing.</p>

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<p>Valentine’s Day is very difficult without your sweetie. :'(</p>

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<p>Crabby lady and LKF: You are in my thoughts and meditations.</p>

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<p>Thank you.</p>

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<p>an article in today’s Anchorage Daily News about crabbylady’s H:</p>

<p>[Musher</a> carries mementos of useful life cut short: 2009 Iditarod 37 | adn.com](<a href=“http://www.adn.com/iditarod/2009/story/723635.html]Musher”>http://www.adn.com/iditarod/2009/story/723635.html)</p>

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<p>thank you for posting the story PRJ</p>

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<p>thank you, PRJ, so heartening to see the Doc remembered for his care for the people of Alaska, and to know others are reaching out to his wife and daughters to show how much they valued him…</p>

<p>crabbylady…you are in my thoughts.</p>

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<p>PRJ thanks for the link.</p>

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<p>Ditto that, PRJ. How did you find the article?</p>

<p>Crabbylady holds a special place in my heart.</p>

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<p>bookworm - crabbylady posted on sistersunnie’s thread about losing HER husband, and she mentioned it there. i thought those of us who had followed CL’s tragedy would want to see it. it brought me to tears - especially CL’s comment about cooking beef stew for the musher: “I frankly hadn’t cooked since Roger’s been gone … There’s nobody here,” she said."</p>

<p>crabbylady holds a special place in my heart too. I think of her often. and it was so kind of her to reach out to sistersunnie.</p>

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<p>Just wondering how crabbylady and sistersunnie were doing… Thinking of them.</p>

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<p>I’m admittedly not a parent and just stumbled upon this thread, but still I hope you and your daughters are doing ok under the terrible circumstances.</p>