<p>"Can you teach her to text?</p>
<p>Here’s an easy way to text. </p>
<p>[AT&T</a> Text Messaging](<a href=“http://www.onlinetextmessage.com/att-text-message.php]AT&T”>AT&T Text Messaging)</p>
<p><a href=“Verizon Messages (Message+) FAQs - Texting App | Verizon”>Verizon Messages (Message+) FAQs - Texting App | Verizon;
<p>Do not teach her to text- no reason for her to, it only leads to more intrusiveness (who wants to read even more messages, from your mother?). Agree on the establish boundaries concept. The cell phone is for your convenience, you only answer when convenient. Do have her email you- then you can respond (or not) to her emails at your convenience. Tell her you won’t answer your cell phone unless you choose to because it is a good time for you to talk. Never make promises to return calls or do things unless you really intend to follow through on them. It is polite to respond to email questions, but don’t do so if it means stepping over boundaries. This means deciding what is and isn’t any of her business to know. Most trivial info falls in the not need to know category, therefore do not let her intrude on your life by answering those questions. </p>
<p>My son has no problems with keeping me out of his personal life by not responding to my calls/emails- even though mothers don’t like it you need to do the same. You can keep track of requests and respond at intervals you establish- once a week is nice, once a month I would consider minimal. Sharing parts of your life is nice when you feel in control of what you share. It is hard on nosy mothers who also don’t believe you can manage based on your track record at home, but a necessary part of growing up, darn.</p>
<p>My daughter never has her phone ring on. It is interesting with kids that they think you should always be available to them, but not the other way around. When she wants to reach me at work, she will call me on all 4 lines until my assistant pops in to tell it’s my daughter and it sounds important. A few days ago my daughter sounded a bit annoyed with me on the phone (probably because I was nagging) and wanted me to get off the phone. I haven’t called her since and have not picked up her calls either. I am one of those moms you could easily get rid off by just being a bit rude on the phone.</p>
<p>Hey MommaJ - great post- I was thinking the same thing</p>
<p>
</p>
<p>The intellectual life of many college students is suspect regardless of mommy calling constantly.</p>
<p>Having sat in on classes at several elite colleges known for intellectual rigor it was disheartening to see so many students facebooking, emailing, ebaying and blogging IN CLASS. </p>
<p>The experience jaded me and may have ruined my middle age.</p>
<p>
</p>
<p>It’s not just college students. Several elite law schools (I think Harvard, Yale, University of Chicago were in the group) have had to turn off wireless connections in their classrooms because students were doing everything on-line during class EXCEPT anything related to the class!</p>
<p>Cell phones should be turned off during class. As a professor, I can’t tell you how annoying it is to have cell phones ring during class. I warn my students that if their’s ring, I will answer it. And I have! It’s embarrassing for the student for me to have a conversation with their mom (or a friend) in front of everyone. (“Yes, Mrs. Jones. Johnny is in my class right now. He isn’t really paying full attention to the class discussion because his cell phone is on. Maybe you’d like to talk with him later about proper class etiquette. It’s been nice speaking with you. Good bye.”)</p>
<p>F.O.LTS you clearly sound like you are not in college yet.Rather than walk from class to class talking to their peers about intellectual topics, students are talking to the moms on cell phones, about non-intellectual stuff like "What are you doing for lunch?"LOL</p>
<p>F.O.L.TS sorry about that, I really thought you were still in H.S. your response was very naive</p>
<p>Two days ago I had a pretty profound discussion about creation, cosmology, universal constants, deism, collectivism and individuality … with a hallmate who was slightly drunk, or at least tipsy. So I mean, parties and intellectual conversations can go hand in hand. ;)</p>
<p>There’s a video floating around of a student that answers a phone in a lecture hall while the professor is lecturing. The professor calmly walks over and asks for the phone from the student. He turns it over and he smashes it on the floor and then resumes his lecture.</p>
<p>^^^</p>
<p>I knew a professor who brings a sledgehammer to the first class of the semester and promises to smash to bits anyone’s phone that rings in lecture. I’m not sure whether he has ever carried through on his threat!</p>
<p>I wish my mother was alive, so I could continue to receive her annoying phone calls.</p>
<p>WashDad- me too.
Actually, she couldn’t see well enough to dial the phone. Dad dialed for her. I would love to get one of those calls again.</p>
<p>I find myself getting annoyed when my parents or in-laws call at the wrong time…but I am also the annoying parent that calls at the wrong time. </p>
<p>Advice to OP: Be firm but gentle with your mom. Give her explicit instructions- e.g, no calling between the hours of X to Y; or no calling more than three times a week, or once a week, or whatever you want.</p>
<p>Or tell her to text instead of calling. When i think of something i want to tell my daughter I send her a text - that way i don’t have to worry about her class schedule or interrupting anything - social or work. She gets back to me when convenient. She will also text me random thoughts or something funny that happened. We are not constantly texting but i like it when she texts me with a funny story about her kitten (off campus apartment this year) or whatever. Maybe if you established the precedent of sending your Mom little tit bits of information she would not feel the need to constantly phone. We parents miss you guys you know. If you reach out a little she may back off a little.</p>
<p>I stink at texting, but am a great emailer. S has an IPhone, and I know he can read my messages, on his own time. I am not “interfering” with phone calls, but I still like the contact, and he is pretty good about responding in a timely manner, but no, it isn’t immediate. I don’t think we have to expect our college aged kids to be at the beck and call of parents’ need to talk, although it is surely an adjustment for us parents who are used to that, and frankly miss it.</p>