Well, they are both back at thei respective universities and I am sad. It was great to have them home, but I don’t feel we had much quality time. It was like herding cats. Plus, when I was sleeping, they were awake and vice versa. Then they’d be up and out if the house in 3 hours. One didn’t even spend the night 2 out of the 5 he had home because he was going to be drinking and knows not to drive…thank goodness…but I still like it when they are in their own beds. It was sort of an unfulfilling break…I’m sure part of the downer mood was the trouble my youngest is in.
Sounds typical, conmama. The kids want to see their friends and the part about keeping late hours -l ets just say it’s like living with vampires. The winter break will be longer so you should get more time to spend together then.
D and SIL were here which was very nice. They have both been out of school for a few years so their friends are more scattered allowing more time together. S is at school in London so I really missed him.
Mine did not come home for Thanksgiving, and will not be home for Christmas either. We knew about this almost a full year ago. We said at that time (when we took our family vacation last Christmas) that this might be the last time only three of us would be together by all ourselves and it would not be like this for many years to come.
We had our good time some time ago. He came home almost every break in 4 years. We appreciate the time he gave us during breaks in those 4 years.
I had two of my three home…one was studying most of the time, the other was spending a lot of time with her very missed friends.
They will all be home for Christmas so I am pleased with that…the one who spends so much time with friends will have a lot of time to do that over the course of the month+ home. The oldest will be on vacation here with her fiancé so we will be able to relax mostly.
It gets harder and harder , the older they get
It is not over yet. But so far, fingers crossed, good. My bus pass was used often to reach the city… We had 2 TG dinners - complete with turkeys - one on Thursday and one yesterday when the\ big kiddo and her hubby could join us. We went shopping… We discussed global public health issues… and cats.
Mine came home Tuesday night and left today. One spent some time at the library, the other was out very late last night. We had grandparents and cousins over as well for two days, so while it was nice, it was quite exhausting. The first one arrives home again December 10 through January 10… The other arrives on the 16th and will be here until the end of January.
It can be difficult depending on your expectations. If they are still in touch with friends from high school, they will surely be out to see them. They like to sleep. They like to stay up late. I have found some of the best way to have quality time is - if I can - meet them where they are. I usually go to bed 10ish - but when they are home, it’s more like midnight - 1am! I am happy to be on their schedule for a few days.
There is never enough time of course. Always want more!!!
My husband is used to me being at his beck and call for business purposes…today was the last day of our youngest being home and I have to admit , I totally spoiled her. I did her laundry and made her and her boyfriend ( the on again off again guy ) homemade waffles. I waited for her to finish talking a friend thru a drama in our driveway.
I ignored husband and prioritized the kid
Meanwhile , he drove her back to school
Mine was with g/f’s family, and expect he will do the same for Winter break. They have come for Passover twice, so maybe again, but if not, I’ll visit him. He lives near Boston, and I have so many friends there to see.
It gets easier each year to expect them to spend time with loved ones and friends.
I retrieved my D2 from college and took her on a mini vacation for the weekend. She couldn’t escape. We did have a suite with 2 bedrooms so she could retreat a bit, though… D1 never comes home for T’giving, but still comes for 2 weeks at Christmas.
similar here. they were home but out a lot. & yeah - was wonderful when they were both in bed!!! daughter came home week before son & she was looking forward to some couch time under blankets. made me & Wifey quite happy. got to take son shopping for clothes & then lunch, just me & him. Wifey quite frustrated that daughter has a boyfriend - she feels abandoned & was quite sad once she left.
We did have a suite with 2 bedrooms so she could retreat a bit, though… D1 never comes home for T’giving, but still comes for 2 weeks at Christmas.