Hello. My parents have decided to only pay for my tuition and not provide not shelter me. They expect me to pay for my rent but I live in a high priced area and i don’t know how i can afford living here. I am starting to look for a job that pays minimum wage so i can start saving for my rent but i don’t know where i can get cheap rent because i can not afford it. Please i need your help, i am a junior and going to college next year, My parent have decided to cut me off because i wasn’t responsible and i’m lazy which i am totally aware about and i try to change . Please any help will be appreciated
You are a high school junior. How soon do your parents expect you to pay rent, and how much do you need to pay them each month?
What kind of grades do you have? Do you have an ACT or SAT exam score yet? How much money are your parents willing to pay for college tuition?
Look to less expensive areas nearby and commute in. Look for roommate and only rent a room or share a room. What area are you living in?
san francisco
well i have to move out and pay for my own rent and since i live in the city the average rent is 5k and he’s only willing to pay full tuition but no shelter
also i have around 3.3 GPA
Think about live in caregiver or nanny jobs. Depending on where you are, these can be very advantageous. You might have to forego the usual “college experience” and also probably take more night classes, but I had a couple of friends who did this in college and they always seemed far less stressed than those of us trying to pay the rent through regular wage jobs. If you are in a high rent city, chances are good there are some very plum caregiving jobs available that provide housing and board.
I’m looking at easyroommate.com and there are rooms for rent in SF for $725 (sharing with college students). I don’t know where you are getting $5000 because you won’t get a posh place as a college student. You just need this for 9 months right? You are a senior next year? Hopefully you will get more than one job this summer. @andrew102
@andrew102 Have you taken out a Stafford loan yet for this year? If not, you need to and bank it.
EDIT: Oh you are a junior in high school. Is there anything you can commute to from your home? If not and your parents don’t use it for their portion, you can take Stafford loans ($5500 Freshman year, $6500 Sophomore, $7500 Junior and Senior) You also need board (food) and bills-electrical etc. You could gap year and work a year after high school to save money. Does your school allow off campus living Freshman year?
@andrew102 I may be wrong, but I believe that unless you are emancicipated from your parents, or already over the age of 18, your parents have a legal responsibility to provide you with the basics of life i.e. food, shelter, clothing, until you are 18. As I said, I may be wrong…
First, Calm down. You’re a junior in high school. Maybe they’re making this threat in order for you to whip yourself into gear and do things right. It’s March. Focus on school right now and finish this semester with top grades.
Also…start taking care of yourself. Do chores without being asked. Know where your things are. Do your own laundry. Don’t lose things/pay attention to where you set things down. Clean up after yourself. Get yourself up in the morning. Send yourself to bed at a reasonable hour. Don’t be addicted to your phone/texting/etc. turn your phone off at a reasonable hour each night to avoid distraction.
Your parents are disappointed with your behaviors and how you’ve mismanaged opportunities. Show them that you can be responsible and maybe they’ll change their minds. Grow up!!
If they are kicking you out and you are under 18 call the police. They can advise your parents what their responsibility under the law is. If they refuse to have you under their roof they can be required to pay child support until you are 18. Child support is a percentage of their earnings and it’s probably more than it costs to house you now.
If they are saying they will pay your tuition but you have to pay for room and board in college that is entirely doable. I know many kids who pay their own living expenses. In my state, VA room and board at a public university is between $10k-$13k. You can borrow $5500 in your own name and earn the rest from summer jobs if you start working and saving soon and keep a part time job in college. Remember you only have to pay for half a year at a time so you can work and save toward the second semester. Look into the Cost of Attendance of some colleges and figure out what that will cost in CA. I’m sure wages in CA are higher than VA so keep that in mind if you feel we are paying less. Our minimum wage is only $7.25/hour but my sons have been making double that since 10th grade.
edit: I just looked up UCSB room and board and it’s only $12,400 for the cheapest double room with meal plan included. You can do this. http://www.housing.ucsb.edu/rates
Do they want you to pay them some rent while you live at home and commute to CC? Maybe your presumption that you go to sleep away college is the real issue here. I am not offering to pay dorm fees either. That won’t be uncommon for parents, especially if they know you to be uncommitted. Plenty of people work their way through college. WOrk PT, study PT, speak to your parents like an adult and ask how the land lies. If they don’t want you living at home, then you will need to reasses your plans.
You’re a HIGH SCHOOL junior, right?? That’s why you said you would be going to college next year?
Speak to your guidance counselor and be absolutely truthful about what your parents have told you.
This is not a time for advice from strangers online, many of whom are kids without knowledge of the laws or the safety nets for minors. This is a time to speak to someone who knows the resources at your disposal.
@andrew102 can you clarify? Some of us are confused.
To me it sounds like youre saying that once you graduate high school and go onto college, your parents will only pay the tuition. At that point, you will be responsible for your room and board.
Is that correct? If not, which parts are wrong?
If you’re saying that while in high school you will have to find someplace else to live, that is a different situation.