<p>help. Ive been babied all my life and sheltered. Im going to college next year. Im worried about myself. Im so screwed. Any else’s parents like this? What are the most important things to know? Im greatful about all the things that they buy for me but i think they failed in the teaching your child to be independent subject.</p>
<p>Don’t worry, at least I am in the same boat with you.
I’ve been told since Grade 1 that all I should do is attending lectures and taking tests; no useless hobbies, no dribbling with friends. Now upon entering college I have finally discovered how narrow-sighted and stupid I am. In academics as well as extra-curriculum I am a failure. </p>
<p>But, I think it wonderful to start from scratch again. College will offer me new aspects and hopefully,passions to stick to for a lifetime. The first one or two years in college may be a kind of suffering for me, but it’s worthy-decades later when I reflect back on college life, I would surely be grateful that I can have such awesome four years. </p>
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If any, I think they are:
1 willing to learn
2 acknowledge your ignorance and be modest</p>
<p>I’m never really sure what people are talking about when they say this. What exactly is the ‘real world’? How do normal parents prepare their children for it?</p>
<p>Luckily, MTV made a show all about the real world as an example of how you should live your life. </p>
<p>So gather 7 strangers, a film crew, a mansion, and a crap load of tequila–and you’ll be fine.</p>
<p>Don’t worry, college isn’t the real world.</p>
<p>College without grade inflation is harder than the real world. The real world is simple because most people have low IQs and thus most work doesn’t require much aptitude, and memory is an insignificant attribute. The jobs also get easier the more that you get paid.</p>
<p>okay, so my roommate was kind of like this. She didn’t know how to manage her finances. She didn’t have a drivers license. She’d never really had to organize her own life.</p>
<p>A lot of it is trial by fire. Also, in college, you will likely be surrounded by people older than you who have already figured this out. it’s totally okay to ask for help once in a while.</p>
<p>it’s def. tough but college isn’t the real world. the real world is living on your own, completely financially independent from your family. it means paying bills, getting car/home/medical insurance, building credit, getting utilities in your own name, signing a lease and paying all the deposits on your own. paying for your car payment on your own. learning how to budget for needs/wants. knowing your family can’t/won’t bail you out if you need something. </p>
<p>it means understanding that even though in college your success was usually directly related to how much effort you put in, jobs are not like that at all. moving ahead in the workplace requires understanding ppl, understanding office politics, adapting to the environment, knowing when to work more and when to work less, etc. </p>
<p>it means being solely responsible for your own actions. </p>
<p>so, if your parents are paying for most/all of your stuff in college, you’re not in the real world. you’re just going to a boarding school instead of your home. </p>
<p>you can’t really prepare for the real world unless your parents teach you financial responsibility and expose you to the unfairness of life. childhood should be sheltered b/c you only have so many years to live without the daily stress of being an adult. college is a major transition and hopefully your parents will gradually help you. you will be a completely different person by the time you graduate. </p>
<p>id get a summer job or intern after your freshman year. that will help you realize how the 9-5 really works. id also see if you can slowly take on more and more of your own expenses. like maybe start paying for your phone bill and then your auto insurance and car payment. </p>
<p>some parents can do a great job of paying for their kids stuff but still making sure their kids understand finances. </p>
<p>but for now, just enjoy freshman year. as you get more and more towards graduation, you will def need to grow up otherwise you will be 22 living at home with your parents without any real direction.</p>
<p>It’s threads like these that falters my faith in humanity. You’re most likely going to go crazy in college and drop out with that attitude.</p>
<p>Most people in college are coddled- their parents pay for college, room and board and for books. Unless you are moving off campus and paying your own way, you’ll he like most other college kids. You’ll get used to being responsible for your actions.</p>
<p>College isn’t the real world, your responsibilities are minimal. All you really have to do is go to class and study, make an effort to get good grades.</p>
<p>All the other aspects of the real world don’t exist (unless you are paying for school yourself and working, paying your own bills), your level of responsibility is significantly lower.</p>
<p>The real world doesn’t smack you in the face until you are financially responsible for yourself, and it becomes multiplied by 10 once you get married and start a family.</p>
<p>I assumed the OP was talking about things like being exposed to people from other backgrounds, making their own decisions and being semi-selfsufficient.</p>
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<p>if the OP is referring to those things than they are VERY sheltered. if that’s the case OP i recommend: </p>
<p>1.) leaving judgment at the door. i came from a fairly sheltered background (before I left home at 18) and I was actually pretty snobby. it will be hard b/c you may have been taught that your way of life, religion, values are better than others. even if you believe that, try not to showcase it. just let other people be who they are.</p>
<p>2.) try to be friends with everyone, unless they do something you are morally opposed to or they hurt you in some way. avoid stereotypes.</p>
<p>3.) try new things. join a club you might not original join. (you can always quit if you don’t like it).</p>