Nicely stated and I agree.
If it doesn’t feel platonic then it’s not, or at least headed that way.
To be blunt, it seems to me from your various threads that you have a tendency to have very fraught relationships. Maybe this has something to do with the process of exploring your newfound sexuality. But I really think you should try to spend time with and develop relationships with peers of any gender who are simply companionable friends, or available because they are single and sexually compatible.
I don’t think it’s healthy, and I really think that she’s taking terrible advantage of you. She’s married-her primary emotional bond should be with her husband. If it’s not, then she needs to get out of that relationship because she’s short-changing both him and you. You deserve better than this woman, frankly. Shame on her for being so selfish.
Hoo, boy, this one has so many issues around it, certainly not run of the mill. My first thought is this situation is being compounded by being an online ‘relationship’, and in the online world it is so easy to stray into territory perhaps someone shouldn’t. For the other woman, it is the opportunity to have a relationship with another woman while maintaining her current 'real world relationship (her marriage), and even if her husband knows you guys are chatting I wonder if he knows the level of emotional intimacy involved, if he thinks this is just an online, harmless friendship. It is very easy to tell someone you love them over the internet, tell them the things you want to do with them, when there isn’t the real world elements of such things, in real life you tell someone you love them and such but then pull back you see the hurt and anger, online, not so much. With the husband, she can have this online intimacy with you and not feel like she is cheating him, because 'it isn’t real", when in reality it is a form of emotional cheating IMO, it is investing emotions and thoughts normally reserved for an emotional partner/spouse.
To be honest, I worry more about you, because you seem to be investing emotionally in this and you are the one that may be hurt most of all, because to be blunt I doubt very much the other woman will end up having the honesty to tell her husband the truth (if in fact she really is falling for you) and you guys ending up with a real relationship, and I worry you will end up falling for her and getting hurt.
Another poster was correct, no one on here can know all the details or the reality of it, and in the end any advice any of us give is based simply on what we have read here. That said, I have seen enough similar situations with online relationships where it is so easy to compartmentalize ourselves, that it is following a path I have seen many times that rarely ends well, and at the very least I would advise you to be careful and protect your heart, that if you find yourself expecting more than the online relationship you guys have, or develop real feelings, it likely will end up with you getting hurt. I don’t know whether the other woman is bi and wanting to experience intimacy with a woman or feels her marriage is not there for her in some way, gay and realizing that the life she is not living is herself, but it strikes me that she is using your online thing to work that out (or maybe not work it out, and have this as a supplement), but whatever the root cause I would be very careful of her. I am not saying she is being deliberately mean or is trying to use you, having been in similar situations as she is in, I can understand and sympathize with her position, but the problem is she may not realize the impact of what she is doing will have on you, or on her husband for that matter.
My main advice to you would be to find real life friends and people to date, to at the very least keep this online relationship in context, it is very easy when you are alone (or feel alone) to fall into the trap of thinking online friends/virtual world is an answer for the issues in the real world, and it isn’t:)-
You are having a relationship with a married person. I think that says it all.
The problem may be complicated, but the solution isn’t. You are in an inappropriate relationship with a married person. This is not okay. The only right thing is to end it and find some new friends.
This is called and emotional affair. Best you end it before the relationship becomes a physical affair.