My Roommate is copying me!

College Life
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<p>I’m a freshman and I’ve been getting along with my roommate so far except for one thing… she’s copying me! It started when I decided to decorate the wall on my side of our dorm room. I made postcard murals to hang up, the next day she went out and bought more stickers and flowers for her already-decorated room. So her wall is cluttered and I’m left with this feeling that she’s trying to one-up me. She also seems to hang out with my circle of friends, although she has nothing in common with them. She’s more of a party girl, while we all like to watch superhero movies and play video games (nerdy right?), she often complains about what we watch and how she doesn’t get the references we make. I’m sure she could find other friends from all the parties she goes to, I don’t know why she sticks around us if it’s so bad. Ever since then it’s been minor things; like buying the same things as I do, but bigger in size or a larger amount of it.</p>

<p>I few weeks ago I surprised her by saying I was going to get a fish for our room. I had intended that we were going to share the fish and we would take care of it together. I went quite a bit away from campus to buy a betta fish and supplies at a privately owned pet store (which wasn’t cheap). I was so excited coming home, I thought she would really like it. But when I got into my dorm I saw her and one of her friends and a couple of PetSmart bags. Apparently while I was out she had gone to the PetSmart down the street and got two African Dwarf frogs and assembled their new home on her side of the room. My spirits were dampened quite a bit. Since then she has had 4 frogs, 1 snail, and some small tetras, all of which have died somehow. Just yesterday she bought herself a betta fish. I just hope she takes better care of this fish. </p>

<p>I know it may seem like I’m being paranoid, but when you’re living with it, it can freak you out a bit.</p>

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<p>This really sounds like a non-problem. Are you actually being hurt or bothered in any way? Maybe she liked your idea of putting up a lot of decorations and decided to do the same. It’s not a contest. Also, this dichotomy of partygirl/nerd is really overdone.</p>

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<p>Well of course it bothers me, we live in a space no larger than a jail cell, it’s not something I can ignore. And yeah my feelings were definitely hurt when I told her I was going to buy a pet for us, then she took the liberty of just getting her own.</p>

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<p>Chillax, dude. This is just awkward teenage trying to fit in. Y’all are teenagers after all.You’re probably doing it too in different ways you don’t even realize.</p>

<p>Toleration for others’ embarrassing but harmless behavior is one of the hallmarks of maturity.</p>

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<p>I wouldn’t want to share a pet with her after the rate she’s gone through others…I think you just need to ignore her attempts to “one up” you. I had a friend who, no matter what story you were telling, she would completely fabricate a bigger and better one. She was a compulsive liar and was caught often - but I just ignored it and kinda felt sorry for her. Some people crave attention and will do anything to get it. Some people just need to feel liked and cared for. And some people just like to annoy everyone else. Look for a new roommate next year. In the meantime, just smile and focus on your own life.</p>

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<p>Lol ya that is pretty weird, confront them about it</p>