My sister and her husband have been together for 3 years. Their relationship has had its challenges, especially since both of them have struggled with mental health, something they were aware of going into the marriage. But what’s really straining their bond now is her nicotine addiction.
She’s been vaping on and off for years, but the issue is that she’s constantly hiding it from her husband. What started off as a small problem has grown—she used to go through a puff bar a day, and now she’s even hiding finances just to keep up the habit. She recently stole a vape from a friend, and her husband only found out by chance.
He’s communicated with her openly, even tried to support her by letting her take hits from his own vape when cravings hit. But she still lies, hides things, and secretly buys $30 vapes—even though they’re not financially stable.
He loves her deeply and they’ve been through a lot together, but he’s breaking. It’s not just about the vape—it’s the dishonesty, the financial betrayal, and the fear that it won’t stop with nicotine. Her family has a history of addiction, and he’s scared.
He’s not sure whether to stay or go. Has anyone dealt with a loved one hiding addiction like this? What can I do to help my sister—and him?