<p>Here, here. I also went to a private midwestern LAC and I too did grad work at a Big 10. At some point I knew that none of my kids was “interested” in my undergrad. I knew that they were in a different place at 18 than I was in. I knew their lives were different. S1 graduates next week and I wonder sometimes if he was engaged, if he built friendships that will forge decades, did he “engage” with some profs. I think so. He tells me things sometimes that lead me to believe all that happened. He and his roomies will part ways in a week - one to NYC, one to Oregon and mine back to the midwest. Only time will tell. The memories, no doubt, will be as sweet as mine. We cannot shape our kids, we cannot live their lives…</p>