<p>Yes, I’m meddling! My DS is 6’8" tall, truly handsome, athletic, intellectual, NMS, a thoroughly kind and respectful young man, attending a top 5 LAC in the fall. He attends a small private hs in Northern California, which will hold its senior prom very soon. It’s certainly going to be an elegant evening, with dinner and dancing and a wonderful collection of students from caring and involved families. </p>
<p>Unfortunately, my son says he won’t attend, as he feels it’s too awkward for him to dance with girls who are much, much shorter than he – virtually his whole class! Despite my arguing with him on this point, he does not currently have plans to attend.</p>
<p>I’m thinking about all the other teens out there who may have height issues – girls who play volleyball or basketball or are just genetically blessed (!). Do the kids ever work out “you attend my prom and I’ll attend yours” trades? </p>
<p>Senior prom only comes once. Last year, DS did not attend Junior prom as he had too many AP exams to study for – and soon, high school with be over for him! It just seems sad to me that DS is missing this celebration with his friends and I wonder whether I should let it go or try to save the situation?</p>
<p>Please let me know your thoughts, and feel free to PM me if that’s easier.</p>
<p>Thank you, CC parents!</p>
<p>(I’m emphatically not a ■■■■■ – just a loving mom, hoping my son can experience his prom celebration this year! :))</p>
<p>None of his bball teammates have tall sisters/girl cousins?
I bet if a friend girl asks him to go he would and just skip the dancing.
If he can’t get a statuesque date then maybe go in a group of single guys and gals.</p>
<p>Not that he feels comfortable asking about! (He’s the tallest in his school.) Yet, he seems receptive to my networking on his behalf, so it’s hard for me to know how to proceed. My friends either have sons or petite daughters.</p>
<p>hmm … last year he had too many APs … and this year no one is tall enough … maybe he just doesn’t want to go. And there is nothing wrong with that. I never went to homecoming and only went to the prom because I had a girlfriend and even then it was only OK … I just do not like big parties or formal events … and I in no way regret any party/dance/formal I have no attended in my life.</p>
<p>He’s gonna need to get over this tall dude short girl phobia. His choices in life are going to be woman that are on average over a foot shorter than he is. Or he just dates jocks. </p>
<p>And he doesn’t see girls in heels which can add four inches. The shoes dpnt come off till you have been dancing awhile and by then it wont matter. So tha t5’4" girl will be 5’8" for most of the night.</p>
<p>He will have more options on college for dating and friends, but most tall guys end up with shorter girls. It’s much tougher for tall girls.</p>
<p>There is probably a lovely girl with no date who likes him but he can’t get past her not being tall…tsk tsk on him btw…height is like color, he needs to accept that most of the worlds females are going to be shorter, and accept them for their short selves</p>
<p>Talk to or have your son talk to his best guy or gal pals and through their reconnaissance if there is a classmate that wants your s to ask her or wants to ask him herself.
The high school rumor mill is the best barometer of his options.</p>
<p>But he isn’t like his peers. He is very tall. And I can guarantee you there is a girl if not a few that would love to go with him and enjoy his height!!! He sounds awesome and he just needs to sat, yep I am really tall, not mich I can do, so just going to go with it and find the cutesy, sweetest, funniest girl around to take. </p>
<p>If he sees the heels girls wear he may be more likely to go okay that might be workable.</p>
<p>No bball, volleyball girls at his school who are taller than average? I once saw the Olympic female team up close - those are some tall girls!</p>
<p>I know you’ve already covered this with him but - should he really be that concerned that it has to be a tall girl? Why not an average height girl (especially with those tall heels they tend to wear)? Is his favorite song that Randy Newman one about short people? (JK) Seriously, if he limits himself only to girls who are over 6’ or something he’s sure limiting his choices, especially at a small school, but of course that’s his right to do.</p>
<p>If that doesn’t work out, what about just going as part of a group rather than with an official date? I’ve heard that’s not unusual nowadays but I don’t really know since I’m just a guy.</p>
<p>I’m a girl who is 6’0". I was 5’9" my freshmen year and grew to 6 by my sophomore year. It was a PITA to find a guy taller than me. It seems to me that the “no tall date” is just an excuse. Why the heck would that be a problem for a guy? Yeah, it’s kind of awkward, but not missing-prom awkward. My guess is that he just doesn’t want to go. </p>
<p>Either he should go in a mixed group of singles or he needs to ask out someone who is “below” his standards. Yes, they will be in heels which will add to the height, but the shoes come off right after pictures. At least, that’s when smart girls take 'em off. I just wore flipflops to start though haha.</p>
<p>Agree with seahorses. Once the girls get in their super-tall prom shoes, the height difference will be negligible.</p>
<p>I do feel for him. Ds1 is shorter than avg and he had to find a girl who wouldn’t tower over him in heels. Of course, he found a sweetheart who didn’t get super-tall heels.</p>
<p>My DS is 5’8" and he took a girl 6’ to prom, and she wore heals!! DD is only 5’3" and her date was 6’4". It was never considered to be a problem. If he wants to go, he should go, and not stress about how tall his date is!</p>
<p>How soon is “very soon”? Because the date may not be able to find a dress, shoes, hair appointment in time, etc.</p>
<p>If you want to make this happen, you need to find a friend who has a daughter. A connected daughter…perhaps someone on drill team or cheerleader who knows a lot of other girls…they may know someone who would like to be fixed up.</p>
<p>But isn’t it better to go with someone you know who is “too short” than a tall stranger?</p>
<p>Another alternative: Don’t dance. Jeez, lots of guys refuse anyway and the girls end up dancing together as a group.</p>
<p>S2 is 6’6" and his date was maybe 5’2". She wore really tall heels, but took them almost right away. If you want to get in the middle of this the ask one of his friends dates for help. This way he will be with his biddies and the girl will be with at least one friend. My son had one couple in his group that were just friends ( girl broke up with bf and fidnt want to miss out on the fun) Other than clothing you also have To consider dinner and lo reservations. </p>
<p>Forget about the height. I can guarantee there are girls in his class or juniors who would live to be his date.</p>
<p>He may be self concious now about his height but most girls actually do like tall guys. My husband is 6’7" and I’m 5’6". Not an uncommon scenario. My sons are 6’6" and 6"5" and their prom dates were much shorter (like about 5’2 up to about 5’9" for the 4 prom dates total). He just needs to ask someone to go and have fun! (or have his friends find someone for him).</p>
<p>One of my dad’s engineering students played for the Texas basketball team back in the 70s. He was 6’-10" and his wife was 5’-1"! They were already married when he was at Texas. I was just a kid, but I’ll never forget seeing the two of them together. They had the tiniest baby, lol.</p>
<p>I’m 5’-9" and loved dating taller guys. When I met my future DH, I stopped wearing heels because he was exactly my height. I think girls will overlook height one way or the other if the guy is special enough!</p>
<p>Haha maine… I don’t wear heels because my boyfriend is only about an inch taller than me. Not that I wore heals in the first place, but now I have an excuse!</p>
<p>To all of you who have offered kind, helpful and insightful suggestions, thank you very much for weighing in! If you have any other thoughts, please feel free to PM me. As a mom, I always appreciate sensitivity and compassion from other parents – and whole-heartedly believe that kindness is returned!</p>