I don’t have time to breathe. I have match, her wedding and graduation, as well as a move to the residency city, all in the next 3 1/2 months. I don’t need to breathe, I need a Xanax.
^^^. Yes, @CottonTales , you have a LOT on your plate! With a wedding and graduation within a short period of time, along with any possible moves your child/partner need to make, I’d probably need some sort of IV drip.
I’m hoping that son’s internship year and his residency aren’t on opposite sides of the country. Pain to move faraway for just one year…unless it’s to a location close to my sister who has offered her furnished “granny suite” apt above her garage for free!
A little off-topic, but want some input. Graduation is in May.
Last fall, one of my sisters and one of my brothers said that they were coming for a week for son’s graduation (Wed to Wed). They said what they want to see in the southern region while visiting, so we planned a few things that will be within about a 4 hour radius of my town, including overnight stays, with my family going along as well…and of course being back in town for the actual Sat graduation. To be more clear…one trip leaving early Thursday morning and returning Friday early evening. And, one trip leaving Sunday morning and returning Tuesday late afternoon.
In the last week, my other siblings have said that they are also coming, but they’re coming for shorter periods of time (two can only fly in night before and fly out morning after…which is totally fine).
However, one sister announced two days ago that she also will be coming and will be arriving on Thursday afternoon and leaving Tuesday late morning…This sort of “ruins” some of the touring plans for the other two siblings. Won’t it be rude if we’re out of town traveling with the 2 siblings when my other sister arrives and departs?
But, I also don’t think it’s fair to my siblings who made their plans last fall and we made plans accordingly.
Anyone been in a somewhat similar situation? If so, what did you do?
No similar situation ever but that is because my family barely speaks to one and other =D>. Which is actually a relief.However, I did have to pour a drink and reread your post a few times. Wow, not nice of the last sib to just assume all is a go for them.
I think… that there is no really good answer. Talk to everyone involved and give the schedule and ask them to weigh in. An email or a conference call. The only thing I am clear on is that you do not need to make the decision–it should be a family decision. Give the facts and let the S and B weigh in on whether they want to be tourists or they want a family reunion.
Congrats! on the graduation. Us too. But the only others will be FSIL’s parents. (I have a really bad family of origin and it sounds like yours is nice). It will work out!.
Lol…totally understand the need for a drink and a couple of rereads. It was hard to explain.
I don’t think it is rude at all for you not to be there for the late-comer sister. You say “I’m so happy you can come. As you know, H and I will be with Brother A and B’s families in XX from Thurs to Friday, and then again we’ll be gone from Sun-Tues. You are welcome to come with us (or meet us) or you can stay in town and do ABCDEFG.” If you can cut the out of town stuff down just a little and get home earlier on Friday, do that. If not, oh well.
I’m shocked you can spend all that time away that week and still entertain for graduation. Will your graduating son be around? Other son? Can someone welcome the sister and get her settled, point her to the right activities and restaurants? I think that’s all you owe her since you’re committed to Brothers A and B
I figured out that next year I will have to travel to daughter’s senior night game (it’s a big deal) and then return 2 weeks later for graduation. D#1 will be in school and it would be a real pain to try and get her there, so I think it will just be me. My 81 year old mother is going with me to visit next week, but who knows if she’ll be up to it next year.
Thanks! I agree with what you wrote.
You’ll be busy next year with your two.
But only one is graduating. D1 took a semester off last year. I do have a nephew graduating but it’s local, and unlikely I’ll go except to a party.
Countdown to Friday
Who’s counting? ~X(
It better come soon because I don’t know how much longer I can keep holding my breath…
Today each candidate learned if they have a match at all. They learn where on Friday.
Just as students do not Match sometimes the schools do not have enough matches.
So there can be a scurry to get candidates and programs together.
It has been long planned that H and I would be here for match. Our flight was clearly not likely to happen on Tuesday So we flew to Boston on Sunday.
I am shocked but I love this cold dry weather so far. As long as the wind is down it feels so good.
But talk to me tomorrow! After the 12" expected. H and D think I am nuts.
I’m just praying for a good match.
Does everyone get a match? One year a friend told me his son didn’t match and would be doing research for a year. I didn’t think I should ask any questions. I am curious. Does this happen?
Not everyone matches. Most do, some don’t. May depend on your area of specialty. Yesterday at 11 if you DIDN’T match you can later in the day go online and see what programs still have openings and request “interviews” with those sites in hopes of a late match.
The other side of match day is medical school academic departments. There is also a sign of relief yesterday at 11am to find out that your program filled all your open positions. If you have 5 slots for residents and only fill 4, you have to jump back in that pool (above) of scrambling to find a loose candidate to take that last spot - and of course you want someone you feel will be compatible.
I work at a medical school - there was a BIG sigh of relief yesterday to learn that all departments filled all slots!
Yes, there are a number that do not match. Yesterday, the MS4’s learned whether they matched or not. Friday those with matches learn their destination. Those who didn’t match can either do research for a year and redo…or they can do SOAP (“During Match Week, unmatched and partially matched applicants registered for the Main Residency Match® with verified credentials may participate in the Supplemental Offer and Acceptance Program® (SOAP®)”)
Residency Programs that did not fill all of their open spots are available during SOAP.
Thankfully, son was matched and now we wait with crossed fingers and toes until Friday 11am CST.
Thank you. Is the SOAP match binding?
Good news @mom2collegekids
Congratulations and good luck to S on Friday with his number one choice.
While obviously the focus Friday is on the student, I don’t think people realize how much time, money, and behind the scenes effort parents can put into process. It can really be a family team effort to get to Match Day. So congratulations to you as well @mom2collegekids.
@abasket I also work at a medical school and we were delighted to learn yesterday that we filled all of our positions in my department. Years ago there used to be what was called “the scramble” where unmatched applicants would call around to programs with unfilled positions. That was a hectic day with the phone ringing off the hook.
Best wishes to all CC parents of medical students!
Friend’s D is in this cycle. Friend and her H are flying down to be with her on Friday. Didn’t hear from them yesterday - don’t want to ping them and ask if everything went ok. Crossing my fingers and hoping to hear good news on Friday.