nearly 20 and I feel like I ain't done **** with my life

College Life
#1

<p>hopefully i'm not the only one who feels this way</p>

<p>I turn 20 next month and it's starting to kind of freak me out. Legally I've been an adult for almost two years but it seems 20 is when you really start being considered a true adult. You certainly can't call yourself a teenager anymore. I seriously feel like my life has not progressed much at all since I graduated high school two years ago. I'm doing well in uni but apart from that not much is better. I had very few friends for most of high school, and now I have very few friends. I've had one girlfriend (and we didn't do much), I'm fairly certain that if I died tomorrow there'd be a pretty paltry showing of people at my funeral. So many people I know seem like they're doing tons of stuff with their lives and they're my age or even younger. Happy with their lives. I have a thousand and one regrets. </p>

<p>sometimes I wish I could just hit 'reset' and then rewrite my life. does anyone else?</p>

#2

<p>Yeah...I find myself entertaining the idea every now and then. I was pretty much the same, out of 19 years I have had really just this year that I felt like I had done something with my life. I am also turning 20 next month which is a slightly scary thought but in my opinion I am doing better then I thought I would be doing this time last year. Things will pick up....hopefully because while I enjoy doing what I am doing it doesn't leave a lot of time to pursue a relationship or things like that...but a lot can happen in a year.</p>

#3

<p>Is this going to be a trend of people having 20-year old crises? lol I'm 21 and I feel like my life is just beginning (or at least a fresh new beginning). I have my first job, going to a new school (NYU), starting a new life (LA to NYC), and many new friendships to make. </p>

<p>Don't even bother having a "crisis" at 20 years old because I'm sure there are 40-50 year olds that would love to give you a slap in the face. lol</p>

#4

<p>Dude. You're 20. Knock it off.</p>

#5

<p>Can't even legally drink. Some cultures think you're not an adult until you have a child. Don't rush.</p>

#6

<p>many many many times (and i'm 21 <.<)</p>

#7

<p>I wouldn't call it a 20 year old crisis....just life lol, I am definitely NOT where I saw myself being a year ago but I don't think anything is wrong with it.</p>

#8

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it seems 20 is when you really start being considered a true adult.

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<p>Haha, no. Until you cross 25 you're still pretty much a kid. And basically under ideal circumstances you've only completed 25% of your life. So yeah I wouldn't be surprised if you've accomplished nothing.</p>

#9

<p>Yeah, not so much a crisis as just a self-reflection. Like I said, it's disconcerting to see so many people who are doing great things with their lives and are genuinely happy... I've been searching for that for a while and still haven't found it.</p>

#10

<p>I'm sorry you have the feelings you have :(. regret is sad.</p>

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sometimes I wish I could just hit 'reset' and then rewrite my life. does anyone else?

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<p>I've thought similar things. you've been a conscious person for, i don't know, 15 years, which is around 6k days. I'm not sure what you wish you could have done. Um, we all get old and have to face death and illness and things. Even if you could rewrite your life you'd eventually find yourself at that stage. would all those things matter then? maybe it would solve the problem of regret, but I don't know.</p>

<p>Hopefully your discontentment with your past will motivate you to do things that you won't regret. Nothing's guaranteed though.</p>

<p>basically you are unhappy :(. There are lots of unhappy people. You are one of them. That is a terribly sad thing. human suffering is sad. suffering hopefully motivates people to do anything they can not to suffer, but sometimes that motivation is not enough. </p>

<p>hearing about sad people makes me sad. I wish you were very happy, and not because i particularly care about you or know about you, but because then I would be more happy. everyone wants everyone else to be happy, but for certain reasons it doesn't quite work out that way.</p>

#11

<p>"sometimes I wish I could just hit 'reset' and then rewrite my life. does anyone else?"</p>

<p>Yes. I feel like my life would be a lot better if I made different/smarter/better choices in high school. I just turned 19 two weeks ago, and realized that on paper I'm a pretty dull person. I have no real life plans other than finish college (I get that I don't necessarily need them, I just feel like I should have them).</p>

<p>I feel like I should just say screw it, pause college for a year, and move to Africa as a missionary. Help the sisters with orphans and what not.</p>

#12

<p>Hey but look on the bright side. If your life sucks then it can only get better or stay the same.</p>

#13

<p>we're still in school and we have little to no responsibilities compared to someone, say, twice our age. chill out.</p>

#14

<p>^Speak for yourself...</p>

#15

<p>what do you expect? you're stuck in a certain place because you're working towards a degree. unless you travel in the summer you're going to be there for the next two years (i'm assuming, if you were born in '91 like me) and there's not much you can do. after you're not obligated to be in a certain city and you've earned your degree you can go out and "accomplish something." i guess i'm lucky because i get to go abroad a lot? because i don't know if i identify with you guys. what do you guys think of this? 5</a> Scientific Reasons Your Idea of Happiness Is Wrong | Cracked.com</p>

#16

<p>Don't feel bad. I'm 19 and felt the same for a while. Then one day I was sitting in my chair thinking that, and thought to myself "Dude, you're fµckin' 19. If nothing else you have 10 years in your 20s to get better at life. If you screw those years up, you can then feel sorry for yourself and have a fairly large pity party all by yourself. But now you just sound like a high schooler after a 2-week relationship ends..."</p>

<p>It sucks now, but wallowing in your own disappointment won't help. It'll just make you look unhappy when people are around which means they'll be less inclined to talk to you cause you're putting out bad vibes.</p>

#17

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what do you guys think of this? 5 Scientific Reasons Your Idea of Happiness Is Wrong | Cracked.com<a href="From%20Hella's%20link">/quote</a></p>

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science says that endless pursuit of stuff leads to decreased life satisfaction, decreased happiness, depression, paranoia and narcissism. Holy ****!

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<p>With respect to that quote...what a load of BS. The only way money can't buy happiness is if you've had tons of it since you were born. Then a new Ferrari every week would be like a normal person buying a loaf of bread every week.</p>

#18

<p>I blame social media.</p>

<p>Makes the younger folks look at lives of other people similar to themselves on FB and TV, as living the life, being apart of something larger then themselves. </p>

<p>@RioBravo
I really don't know what you expect for yourself in a month, a year or five from now.
But I can tell you one thing, just by putting your foot in the door with college, you've done a lot more with your life then a lot of people can say for themselves, and more so once you graduate.</p>

#19

<p>UAKid - it was contrasting spending money on stuff with spending money on experiences, not saying that good stuff = bad.</p>

#20

<p>I sometimes feel the want to rewrite some parts of my life but then again I'm only 17.</p>