Sorry if this is the wrong forum, I wasn’t too sure on which category this falls under. 
I need some advice on what I should do for this upcoming summer as a rising freshman in college. I'm currently a senior in high school and I have already decided which college I will be attending this fall.
This year has been terrible. In May, my mom walked out on my Dad and I after he moved back to North Carolina (where I live) after being stationed in Washington DC. (He's in the military.) I endured 9-10 months of neglect during my junior year from my mother, who thought her friends were more important than me. I already had pre-existing anxiety due to the immense amount of academic pressure I put on myself, and during that period I developed depression due to the fact I was isolated and alone. My dad is awesome, and has always been a great support. I chose not to fill him in on my mom's actions to prevent their marriage from falling apart, which happened once my mom walked out. I haven't seen or spoken to my mom in about 2 months, as her presence triggers my depression. The good news is that I see a therapist once a week and it's definitely helping, my grades are great and I've been accepted to a college that I can't wait to attend!
Now here is my dilemma-
The summer is coming up and my Dad has been stationed to Augusta, GA to take Brigade Command. He will be moving there half way through the summer in early July. It’s a very time-consuming position and he will be out of town a lot, and I won’t see my Dad much when he takes command. I don’t know anyone in Georgia and it will be hard to make friends because I will be leaving at the end of the summer for college. My Dad wants me to work and save money for college. I completely agree that I should save and help contribute to my education whether it be in the form of tuition help, spending money etc.
The initial plan was for me to move to Charleston, SC (where my family is based) and find a job there and I would live with my Grandma (Dad’s mom) or my grandparents. (my mom’s parents) I would still have no friends and I would basically hang out with my cousins who are 7 and 5. I don’t like this idea because I know I will be isolated and will not be around many people my age. However, due to the situation with my mom, my family has been fragmented and I don’t feel comfortable with my family.
Another facet to this is dance. I’m on a competitive dance team and our nationals are in July, so I must attend June practice at my dance studio, which is in NC. Many of my friends are on my team and Nationals is a great way for me to end my 16 year dance career on a high note.
So now I’m conflicted, I’m going to make arrangements to stay in NC to dance. My therapist agrees that being in Charleston would be bad for my mental health, and thinks that me moving to Augusta with my Dad is the worst thing that I could do. That leaves July and the majority of August open for me to work, assuming that I don’t stay in NC the whole summer. If money and reality were nonexistent, I would backpack through Europe with one of my friends or rent an apartment in my town and get a job here. However, the pragmatist in me is saying that neither of these options are feasible. (especially Europe haha)
What do you think I should do? Where should I go? As you can tell, this situation is very complicated and messy. My #1 priority is to not put myself into a volatile situation that will isolate me and possibly compromise my mental health. I’ve been working really hard with my therapist to heal the wounds my mom created.
To any parents out there, if I was your child, how would you like to see this conversation framed? I don’t want to approach my Dad with this situation being whiny or immature, especially if I will most likely not be with him for the majority of the summer. I would like to tell him, “I like plans A, B, and C, I would like your input and while I prefer Plan A, I will do which ever plan you are comfortable with, assuming that my therapist thinks it doesn’t put my mental health at jeopardy.”
It is clear to me that in this situation I can’t have it all- I can’t work, dance, move, stay mentally sane (lol) or be happy all at once. What do y’all think is the best option for me? Is there a summer program for rising college freshman that is worth looking into?
I appreciate any advice you guys have for me, and thanks for reading this long post.