I’m sorry about the CDB. I know that you were working so diligently on it. I’m also glad that you worked things out with your dad and I hope he’s less stressed about work. I think you have a great list and it is well balanced.
You do seem to have a more Type-A, high energy personality so I don’t know if you are looking for a school that is more high-energy (which I would think something like Exeter and Andover are) or more laid back, but maybe that could help guide your choice.
I would also suggest going over the blackatXXXXX instagram accounts for the schools. I say this not to be a deterrent to the school, but just so that you go in with eyes wide open. Choate had to lock down recently and then kids had to walk to class in groups because the school received an email from someone outside the school (probably in the town) threatening harm to a (random) black student. It’s still a great school and community, and they dealt with it, but it did happen. SPS has done a better job addressing concerns than say, Deerfield. Take all this with a grain of salt, as this is what I’m observing from these accounts, but the reactions of the school admin does speak to how committed they are to their students.