Helloamanda - let me ask you, is having an actual college degree of primary importance in your plan? (if it is, I totally get it!) Are you looking for a campus environment?
Given your “life experience” etc- I was wondering if an acting conservatory like Stella Adler, William Esper, Circle in the Square etc might make sense. It would be less expensive, (though you would have to cover living expenses etc) and many of those offer 2 or 3 year programs.
One more thought- since you have a number of top tier/extreme reach schools (Purchase, CalArts etc…) you might want to throw something like Juilliard or RADA into the mix - as those schools often value students with more experiences
Good Luck!