<p>I like blueiguanas. My sister just moved to NC and she calls that “the southern screw you” I always called it kill them with kindness but I like southern screw you much better. To be a true southern screw you, end the email with “thanks y’all!”</p>
<p>Well, I responded by email saying I’d join in, wearing it as a hat.</p>
<p>The other overweight mom responded saying she’d been requested (by her daughter) to wear a specific lucky sweater. </p>
<p>The other moms didn’t respond and showed up in the shirts, for the photos.</p>
<p>In retrospect, FWIW, I wish I had ignored the email.</p>
<p>I agree with the sugggestion that moms wearing their daughters’ team shirts is a little strange. What are they trying to say about themselves - because this certainly isn’t about their daughters!</p>
<p>I’d send blue’s email. You may know from past experience whether the mom is being inconsiderate or just a ding dong. She’s an adult and should know better! BUT your response will show your maturity. Too bad you can’t include a :rolleyes: in the email. </p>
<p>FWIW - I agree that the parents in team colors is far more appropriate. My D and I just happen to be the same size right now and none of her clothes are appropriate for me!!</p>
<p>Well bless your heart, ebeeeee, how did you know? 
We southern girls are experts at passive aggressive with a warm wonderful smile on our faces. If you’re not used to it your head will spin wondering if you’ve just been told off in the most polite way possible.</p>
<p>mtpaper, I think your response was funny and probably true to your personality. I, like others here, think the mom is clueless at best.</p>
<p>That is a really odd suggestion. I would never assume that most mothers would fit in their daughers’ clothes (weight issues regardless, you could also just be a different size. My mom is 3 inches shorter than me, but the reverse could have happened – I can’t easily wear all of her clothes). If she wanted to be cutesy, maybe she should have had everyone order shirts, or printed something on t-shirts.</p>
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And begin it with “Bless your heart” :).</p>
<p>I was talking to my son a few days ago about the fact that I always seem to offend people without meaning to and he asked me what I meant… it would never have occurred to me to write a polite response to someone who suggested I wear my daughter’s t-shirt! I would have written something like: “I haven’t been small enough to fit in my daughter’s clothes since I was 16. Got any other ideas?” And here’s the bad part: I would have sent the email.</p>
<p>blueiguana, I had a feeling. I worked with a wonderful woman from the south once who was great at the southern screw you. She was also fond of saying “well bless his heart” about a certain major JERK we both knew. She died about ten years ago and I still think of her with a good laugh sometimes :)</p>
<p>Crazy to tell the moms to wear daughters shirts and even crazier that apparently most of the moms did it. Kudos to the two that didn’t do it!<br>
Thank goodness that on S2’s senior night I was told to wear his huge football jersey. Glad I didn’t have a girl cheerleader kid!</p>
<p>I say “bless her heart” many times a day at work. It can cover a lot.</p>
<p>dmd77</p>
<p>That’s me too. It would be so obvious to me that it was ridiculous that I wouldn’t be able to be subtle in my response. This trait gets worse as I get alder.</p>
<p>Or you could act willing - “Great idea. I was going to do it, but my daughter got really upset with me when I was about to cut the shirt open at the back and rip the sleeves off so that I could fit into it. Girls are so selfish”.</p>
<p>^^^^^^^
lol</p>