I’m not sure that this is going to end up in the right place, but here goes! I haven’t broached this yet with my daughter’s school counselors but am looking for some real-world advice. D’21 has always struggled with school. She has ADHD and Dyslexia, and goes to a great prep school that has a learning support program for kids like her. Her “coach” has been there to help her with executive functioning issues, etc. but a lot of the issue at this point is just a lack of maturity. Despite the years of support, she still struggles and has a not-great gpa here in Junior year. I believe it’s just under a 2.9. Her pre-ACT was a 26, so I feel that she’ll at least test well, but the grades are not great and it doesn’t appear that she’s improved much so far this year. There are some 4-year colleges she can get into, but their graduation rates are low and I feel she may continue to under-perform. So my options for her are:
- A lower-threshold, low graduation rate public school that will take her
- An expensive private college that will have a support system for her like the one she has now (we're interested in Marist College for this)
- keep her home for two years/send to community college so that she can mature more 4. See where she gets in and if she gets in a decent school that she's happy with, defer a year and do a Gap--sending her away for a semester to mature/gain some life skills.
I am considering all the options for her and want her to have things to choose from when we get to the second half of senior year. Money is fortunately not a factor as we’ve got savings to cover any/all scenarios. Her older sister is a sophomore in college and she VERY much wants the whole “college experience”/not “two more years home with mom and dad” but I don’t want to send her away when she’s not ready only to have her struggle and end up back home later.
I know I’m not the first one to have an immature child struggling to make a college decision. She’s extremely intent on becoming a HS math teacher, so the drive/focus is there as far as what she wants to do, it’s just not translating into her school work NOW. Thank you for any advice/words of experience/wisdom!