<p>I’ve heard of this. The girls involved tend to be in expensive private schools or to have very progressive parents. I don’t think that most girls go through such a stage though I think that a large proportion of humans have the ability to be bisexual or attracted to people of their same sex.</p>
<p>Noted GT. Should have used “shows” rather than promotes.</p>
<p>Any one else with input? I appreciate it.</p>
<p>I don’t remember this being much of an issue with the kids in D1’s class (she is now a college junior). The girls in her class were better know for going through a “cougar stage.”</p>
<p>It has been quite a different experience in my younger daughter’s class. Quite a few of her classmates, both boys and girls, went through a very public “bisexual stage” in grades 8, 9 and 10. A lot of the kids who went through this stage also happened to be quite open to experimentation with drugs and alcohol.</p>
<p>My daughter is a college junior. She recently revealed to us that she is a lesbian. She was very angry when she told us and wouldn’t look us in the eye. We responded that we don’t care what she is as long as she is happy. Truth be told, I do hope this is just a phase and that she isn’t gay, because I know it is not an easy life road to take. She was molested as a child (5-7 years old) by a neighbor and didn’t tell us until a few years ago. Has not like the 2 counselors we sent her to, and she really does need help. Has finally agreed to see a counselor at school, which is a blessing.
My question is , is she really gay? Is this just a college thing? She got involved with a girl that lived in another state, and the girl was going to move to her college to be with her, (this all happened lightning fast, within 3-4 weeks) my daughter went on a school trip out of the country for 2 weeks. When she came back, she told the girl not to move, that she wasn’t ready for a relationship. They still text on a regular basis, and my daughter keeps “friending” gay women on facebook. I don’t know if it is curiosity, if she is truly gay, or if it is a result of the abuse she suffered. She pushed that secret down for 11 years and it is now refusing NOT to be dealt with. She has had many boyfriends, a few serious, (she had a serious boyfriend at school last year and he dumped her and it hurt her pretty badly) since the time she was 14-15. I don’t know if it is me just hoping she isn’t gay, but I really feel that this is just another way of keeping everyone at arm’s length so she doesn’t get hurt again. She has been drinking an awful lot, and she told us it is because she was unhappy hiding that she was gay. But I know even though she outed herself to us, she is still drinking heavily at college. Another point, and I know this sounds just awful and prejudiced, but the girls she keeps “friending” on FB are very manly looking. I mean they do not in any way look feminine, they wear clothing and have shorn hair to look as unfeminine as possible. What does this all mean? My daughter is feminine- looking. Why would she hunt down this particular type of looking woman? Isn’t that like looking for a woman that’s actually like a man? I am sorry if I offend anyone, I am reeling. She is also very angry with us right now, said we forced her to go into counseling when she wasn’t ready to talk and that I ask too many questions that are annoying. I have backed off completely, I let her call me now and I don’t ask anything deep. I feel like we have lost her and we are heartbroken, especially me, we were very close before. She is such a good girl, and i hurt for her to be struggling so. Any advice would be apreciated.</p>