Need some words of wisdom...attitude problem

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<p>Ohhhhh yep, I get it know. As parents it is easy to be enablers, I am not sure you are though. You certainly sound like good parents to me.</p>

<p>Let me know what you learn… My plebe is starting to pull the - “you don’t pay for my college so…” card.
I absolutely can see where this will be going. Not to turn your problem into my future one, but her sisters are responsible for all their personal expenses while in college, including if they want gas in the car or to go on a trip and my plebe wants me to buy her a new car in two years.</p>

<p>Does he feel entitled since he is now committed to the Army? Perhaps. </p>

<p>I do think part could be growing pains as well. No excuse for disrespect - but as kids pull away sometimes that is the direction they go.<br>
They get self-righteous and self-centered.
I don’t have any good advice - keep lines of communication open, don’t be afraid to tell him when he hurts your feelings, have him start accepting financial responsibility and keep showing him the love. Oh and keep your sense of humor - essential in parenting our near adult children.</p>

<p>PS - I love dmd77’s advice.</p>

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<p>“you don’t pay for my college so…” </p>

<p>Scary, that is exactly how all this started. At the beginning we thought it was a joke, you know how they drop a comment here and there.</p>

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<p>Ummmm yes. The thing is paying for the other three has caused a huge financial burden on us. It’s not like she/we have $50,000 laying around that was earmarked for her college. Her sisters all will/do have lots of loans - something she will be blessed not to have.</p>

<p>Financially, she will have the best start of all of them and she knows it - but…</p>

<p>Anyway - thanks for the warning!</p>