<p>Is it advisable to cut friends out of your life? I have a few great friends, they are just really good guys, but they are so negative and I have realized (and with the advice of some other friends) that it affects me too! I don’t like to be a negative person! I just feel bad, because they are nice and always look out for me, but it just has started to have a very bad affect on me and I don’t have a lot of confidence or self-esteem to begin with and this just is holding me back!</p>
<p>I’ve cut out a person or two from my life for their negativity. It was for the better, it was just more stress and drama I needed in my life. The good thing about friends is that you get to choose them, choose ones you like.</p>
<p>I agree with S0ad. It hurts, but often they’ll get the point if they’re too negative.</p>
<p>I agree with what other above have said.
You should definitely cut those people out. They might be mad but they’ll get over it.</p>
<p>The alternative is that you could just ask them not to be so negative … I’m not sure if that would work.</p>
<p>I feel that that would get an even worse response…depending upon how you say it. Or you could be like, I feel you’re being a negative impact in my life and I would rather not have that so I would like it if you would not be so negative towards me or (something a long the lines of we won’t be friends anymore except nicer)</p>
<p>I had something like that. Friend who was a decent friend I guess, except I think being around him brought me down a lot. All I know is that when I stopped hanging out with him, my life improved. We also had a bit of a falling out. Correlation doesn’t equal causation but still.</p>
<p>We saw each other some months later and he tried to rekindle the friendship, but in retrospect the kid was ****ing psychotic. So I friended him on FB but he can’t see much besides my wall, and I put him in a ‘special’ friends list that’s always offline on Chat so he can’t bug me. It’s worked pretty well.</p>
<p>This is off topic but how do you do that for FB chat?
Never mind figured it out :)</p>
<p>You can get to know more optimistic friends. Thw most important thing is you have to know who you really are. You can take some of thire advice but don’t let other pepole affect you too much.</p>
<p>I had a friend that I had to drop out of my life like that. We got along fine and had things in common. But she was a very negative person and it was rubbing on me. Finally I just told her my grades were suffering and I could not hang out with her anymore, my grades were to important to me. Was she mad? Yeah. Was she offended? Yeah. But in the end what I said were off because in the beginning she was making Cs and Bs and was happy with it and this past quarter she was on Vice President’s List (all As and Bs).</p>
<p>You have two options: Remind them not to take life too seriously and to change their attitudes- you simply can’t expect people to be aware of how their are being perceived. We all need a little reminder sometimes. Or you can simply minimize your time hanging around them, it will do wonders for your sanity. If they react negatively to that, then cut the tie because they’re clearly not very good friends. These four years of your life are crucial, and I am sure you know that. Don’t waste your time surrounding yourself with people you’re not comfortable with. </p>
<p>Good luck!</p>
<p>it’s easy to get negative friends, just square your imaginary friends</p>
<p>hey-o, math joke</p>
<p>I will distance myself from overly negative people, but I try not to burn bridges when it can be avoided. I have lost out on some major opportunities that way.</p>
<p>“it’s easy to get negative friends, just square your imaginary friends”</p>
<p>…i’m afraid I giggled for like a full minute after reading that… :P</p>
<p>I was so pleased with myself for getting that joke, as a dyscalculic, that I told my roommate. She laughed but it might have been at me. XD</p>