She wants large because that’s what her siblings have done and that’s what she’s familiar with. As a parent, I think she would thrive in a more close knit environment. But, both older kids do Greek life, which makes the large state schools feel smaller. So, I know that could be an option.
My main point with this whole thread was that I was surprised that the merit went away in the NPC. It means if she does love this college, she can’t ED, because it’s no longer likely to be in range of what we want to pay. We always say max of 50k to the kids, we just know we could, as the parents, flex to 60k a year for the right fit. But, flexing to 90k?? That would be a no. I’m surprised that a school would want to turn away families that would be “bird in the hand” with ED.