Well, I’ll never be a MOB either as I have no daughters. 
Mob or mog. Doesn’t seem like it is going to happen. Oh well, I’ll have to adapt. Life deals you a hand. Gotta play to the best of your abilities.
@morrismm Hugs. You’re right. Life deals you a hand. Just remember though that you did get to be a mom and a lot of women don’t.
Also…your D1 said she didn’t believe in marriage. That’s not the same as saying she doesn’t want to have kids. And, as others have said, lots of people change their minds.
Good point. On Mother’s Day, an old friend from college posted that someone wished her a happy Mother’s Day. She never married, never had children, and was saddened by the happy wish. It made me realize how grateful I am for having my children, for so many reasons. Anything that comes after the children is just gravy to me.
Ah, Mother’s Day. Mine died decades ago, son may/may not call. Some friends never were mothers, some did/did not want to be. Sigh, why can some women without money or skills to raise children have so many kids when there are potential parents who want to but can’t have kids…
Recent news- couple had baby (donor egg, father sperm) with a 59 year old mom after 40 years of trying. I don’t think being a grandma is in the picture for her…
Wow. Hey, ya’ never know – she could be a grandma in 20 years. 79 is the new 59.
I got married at 28 and didn’t have kids till I was 33, so I can hardly expect my kids to work on a faster schedule!
The oldest turned 28 this year, but he’s never had a girlfriend (or boyfriend for that matter!) and is so shy and he’s in a field without a lot of women, so I think it’s likely he’ll remain single. He’s getting more and more set in his ways, I don’t know if he’s got it in him to compromise.
Youngest is turning 25 soon. He’s had a girlfriend who is lovely for 3.5 years. He’s just become a naval officer and will likely be shipped off somewhere. She’s working on her PhD and does research in Asia every summer, so it’s not going to be easy to stay together. They aren’t talking marriage yet much less kids. Sometimes I let slip “If you get married…” to my son, he just ignores me. 
You never know, mathmom. I was 27, shopping for acreage and an architect to build my one-room Kaczynski cabin when I met my wife of 24.8 years. He needs a woman (like DW) with the stubbornness and stamina to pull a shy guy out into the greater social world.
Suburb-raised S1 has a gf who grew up in a very small town. They are 23 and 21. All her friends are getting married and having kids, while his friends are graduating college and settling into first jobs and new apartments. Different worlds, different expectations.
A brother in law of one of our nieces just got married for the first time at age 62!
@ VeryHappy I have noticed a growing trend in restaurants, stores and other public places of wishing all women a generic Happy Mother’s Day regardless of accompanying children or any evidence they are mothers. Some people say it’s because everyone has or had a mother or mother figure in their lives, but IMO it’s insensitive. It’s also ironic considering it’s less of an inevitable life choice than it used to be.
I have an active, healthy neighbor in her 80s who just became a grandmother for the first time. She was initially in shock but is so thrilled!
OP - your kids are still relatively young. I would not rule out grandchildren for another 15 years.
That said, hugs . It sounds like you would be a loving grandparent. I hope it happens for you.
I got a call last night from my youngest brother. He is 39 and didn’t meet his now wife until he was 35. He called to tell me that they are expecting their third baby! Their oldest is 21 months, they have a 4 month old and the new baby is expected next February. They were a bit surprised, but are very happy.
My Mom worried for many years that this brother would never find someone to spend his life with. Turns out she didn’t need to worry, he just did things in his own time!
I find it extremely offensive even though I am a mother. I hate the thought of people saying this to my sister, who would have liked to have children but didn’t have any, or to women who are estranged from their children or who are grieving the loss of a child.
Oh geez. It’s a “holiday” (I’m not a big fan of what I call greeting card holidays) and no one should take offense. Yes, there are people who are unable to celebrate this concocted event, but no one should find it “extremely offensive” if someone wishes them a Happy Mother’s Day to simply acknowledge the day that has been designated as such. Stay home!
Early in our marriage H and I learned to not bother with Sunday brunch at local restaurants on Mother’s Day. Too crowded and not fun to see all of the happy families when you don’t have a mother and want to be one but can’t. Likewise getting through other themed days/holidays one has to plan around others’ enthusiasm for something that doesn’t fit you. Too many people offend with their other holiday wishes as well (Christmas is probably the biggest in-your-face offender).
btw- no matter what people say about x age being the new y age it just is not so. We have much better medical care to compensate for age related deterioration but our bodies are their ages. Ask anyone about those aches and pains they medicate and otherwise put up with, sigh.
There’s a good chance I would have cried if someone wished me a happy mother’s day these past couple of mother’s days. My SIL is a mother now too but mother’s day is still very hard for her because she lost her mom while in college.
I’m sorry, morris. I really am. I’m sending hugs.
I’m one of the ones that think it’s totally unnecessary to wish women happy Mother’s Day. My D1 graduated mother’s day weekend so we were on our way home sans daughter and countless people wished me a happy Mother’s Day. I think it’s insensitive. They had no clue if I was a mom. I would never make that assumption. I have two very close friends who are childless, but wanted a husband first but that didn’t happen so the kids didn’t happen. I know though they love their moms, they are sad on Mother’s Day.
I don’t think they were being insensitive - really- their intentions were good. Why look at it that way. I understand your feelings for your friends - I have friends who couldn’t have children - but I wouldn’t look at well wishers as being insensitive.
Having good intentions is not an excuse for hurting people’s feelings, in my opinion.
Being told by your boss that you must say Happy Mother’s Day to female customers is.
If my D were wished Happy Mother’s Day right now, she would be devastated. Sorry if she hasn’t grown a thick enough skin yet. 