<p>So, I’m someone who has had the advantage of living at home at my current college. But, the college I am transferring to is in a major city and it would be too much of a hassle to try and find a sublet from thousands of miles away and will be living in the dorms.
Now, I have two issues that are keeping me up at night; first and foremost, I am in my late 30’s and am frankly pretty set in my ways. I don’t want to be roomed with someone young enough to be my kid and who is on their first time away from Mommy and Daddy.
Secondly, and most important, I am the survivor of a very serious crime that has left me with what I call “security issues.” I’m not going to get into details, but I have to have a locked and deadbolted door when I sleep and am often prone to night terrors. I honestly am not sure that I can sleep with another person in the room and I would feel horrible for anyone who would have to listen to me freak out in my sleep, you know? It’s a bad thing for both of us.
My college does offer a few options for studio apartments of single rooms in quad suites, but I know that these are on a first come first serve basis and returning students get first shot at them.
Do you think there is any way to convince them that this is something I need? Should I write a letter or maybe find someone on campus to advocate for me? </p>
<p>Try it and see… it might help to emphasize the age difference rather than the “I don’t want to share” part, just because every kid ever wants a single and doesn’t want to share a room. At my school there was a way to enter accommodation requests/medical issues on the housing app, or you could try contacting housing directly.</p>
<p>Look into transfer housing as well, if your school offers it. That tends to be older students (20+ instead of 17) and it’ll have fewer freshman shenanigans. It’s also considered less weird to be old in transfer housing, since everyone is coming from a different situation.</p>
<p>Talk to the residence life people on the phone. As failure622 said, emphasize the age difference between you and your peers. If possible, get a medical documentation of your night terrors as this will further encourage the college to not put you with the traditional aged transfer students. Finally, inquire about family and graduate housing. Some universities offer this, and housing might be able to place an older transfer into this living situation despite not having a family or graduate student status.</p>