<p>Why would anyone mix pot and alcohol? The effects of the two are offsetting.</p>
<p>Some would say the same of booze and sex!!!</p>
<p>Never knew that booze was particularly effective as a spermacide. (learn something new every day! ;))</p>
<p>Thanks for all the information. </p>
<p>Obviously, my son and I will be talking about this. </p>
<p>You have all given me some good perspectives. </p>
<p>And Opie, it happens to be girls that he’s attracted to, but I wouldn’t be offended at all if he went for guys instead. I just want it to be a nice person because he’s a nice person.</p>
<p>While its true that going overboard makes you unattractive, a few drinks will usually make you less inhibited, and more sociable around the opposite sex.</p>
<p>I also worry about the liability of the 21 year olds buying booze for the whole dorm!!! (Because you KNOW that’s how the kids get their booze.)</p>
<p>“And Opie, it happens to be girls that he’s attracted to, but I wouldn’t be offended at all if he went for guys instead. I just want it to be a nice person because he’s a nice person.”</p>
<p>absolutely no disrespect was meant. It’s just a bit different these days. The girls talk works pretty well though.</p>
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<p>Fortunately, my son lives off-campus, in a building where over 21-year-olds are common.</p>
<p>He wouldn’t want to do it anyway.</p>
<p>Three years ago, when he was a senior in high school, he deliberately concealed the date of his 18th birthday because he didn’t want to be pressured into buying cigarettes for other kids at the convenience store across the street from the high school. He isn’t going to publicize this birthday, either, for similar reasons.</p>
<p>Why don’t you sit down with your son and ask him what kind of “drinking” he wants to do? Just try to get an open conversation going. Would he like to be able to order a glass of beer or wine at a restaurant? Or try one or two mixed drinks at a bar? Or is his model kids who play drinking games and binge drink? (Don’t use loaded phrases to get to the last point – just try to get out what the circumstances are that make him feel “left out”) </p>
<p>I think you would feel better if you had a clearer sense of the context of what he wants to do.</p>
<p>calmom, that’s exactly what we talked about last night (he’s home for Spring Break this week). He says that the principal situation when he feels left out is when he can’t join in with his friends when they drink beer and watch sports. I know he also felt left out last summer when the young people at his internship (most of whom were old enough to drink legally) used to have a weekly get-together where they would watch a rental movie and drink a beverage linked to the movie (rum for Pirates of the Caribbean, martinis for James Bond, etc.). (Have I mentioned that my son and most of his friends are a bit on the nerdy side?) Drinking games and shots don’t seem to enter the picture. Very reassuring.</p>
<p>There are also alcohol free beers he could try if he doesn’t want to stand out. They taste just like beer, without the buzz.</p>