<p>I have a new roommate this coming semester and I want to get along with her as well as possible. I really didn’t have the best relationship with my last roommate and while I think she had personal issues, I’m not really sure if I did anything wrong. I’ve been told that I was a good roommate to her, but I feel a bit insecure because she seemed so unhappy. What are some steps I can take to ensure our living situation runs more smoothly than my previous one did? Should I call her or add her on facebook first? I also feel a bit weird because I am already habituated, spend little time in the room, and have friends at my school, but according to her facebook friend list she doesn’t seem to know anyone yet. To what extent am I obligated to help her make friends if she needs help adjusting?</p>
<p>First, don’t assume - maybe she’s only just created her facebook, or doesn’t use it much, or it’s an old account. Second, don’t assume that your old roommate’s unhappiness was due to you at all. If she had personal problems, that’s enough to make her unhappy. Other people can’t make someone happy, they have to work on it themselves.</p>
<p>You’re not “obligated” to help your roommate adjust, but it would be a good gesture to help build the relationship if you invite her along to lunch or activities with your group of friends. I have always commuted, however, if I had a roommate I would probably friend request them on facebook and at least chat with them a bit before moving in to see what they’re like, and maybe work out a few “rules” that roommates always seem to be disagreeing over. </p>
<p>Don’t stress over not making your old roommate happy. There’s enough going on at the start of the semester without worrying about that on top of it. Just be friendly and make some effort, and hopefully she’ll do the same.</p>
<p>The best advice I can give you is to try to get to know her, but don’t stress it. Maybe sometimes you both can go out to eat and talk about stuff. I agree with the above poster, to not assume.</p>