<p>Thanks for all advices…</p>
<p>Bookworm…my S helps her every subjects, even a subject that my S hasn’t take. He researches web material for her at her request. She asks nobody for help as my S is so helpful and efficient…lol</p>
<p>anxiousmom…they are not dating</p>
<p>I was absent minded and didn’t use my account…</p>
<p>Thanks for all advices…</p>
<p>Bookworm…my S helps her every subjects, even a subject that my S hasn’t take. He researches web material for her at her request. She asks nobody for help as my S is so helpful and efficient…lol</p>
<p>anxiousmom…they are not dating</p>
<p>he knows she is using him but doesn’t care</p>
<p>hopefully his own work won’t suffer</p>
<p>Unfortunately, this girl sounds like some of my sex that I have known, and see in school everyday where I teach. They have no interest in a other than what they want from him, in this case grades. She is an egotistical user, plain and simple. They feel nothing for others, just themselves. And I wouldn’t be surprised if there were a real boyfriend somewhere out there. Unrequited love is such a hard thing to deal with, and it is hard to let go of the fantasy at your S’s age. You can drop hints, but quite frankly, nothing much you say will help the situation, and may make him more stubborn to get her to feel the same way. You know your S and need to make the call whether this will make him rebel and go after the girl no matter what, just to prove he is right, or if he will take what you say to heart. No matter what you decide, like all users, she will eventually find someone else that she can use and move on. Your son, however, will hurt. You can’t stop the emotions and feelings. This is a rite of passage with a lot of teenagers. It eventually makes them wiser about relationships, tho. They will find out that there are girls out there that string boys along - it makes them feel like they are irresistible. They can also be very cruel about it and laugh about the boy to their friends. It’s a terrible spot for parents to be in, walking that tightrope. Be there and be supportive. If he talks about it, listen. You need to be the safe harbor for him to come to when he is hurting. Good luck to you and your son.</p>