Last semester I struggled to adapt to college life, find a social life, etc. Then I met a best friend and found a boyfriend. Trust me, when they say it gets better, it does.
Now, I was heavily invovled in a campus ministry first semester. I did volunteer work and I am the vice president of a club, although the club doesn’t do much.
While I found great friends in my ministry, toward the end of the semester I stuck with it just for the people and I don’t think that is why I should continue. I will still have my best friend and all the friends we have mutually made. My boyfriend, I am not sure about bringing into the new semester even though I care deeply about him, there are some serious issues - thats tbd.
I am scared to leave the last semester behind and start the new one because I don’t want to get into the ruts I was in the first semester, but I feel like its time for a change. I want this to be a semester where I actually do schoolwork and my grades thrive. I want to get a job, and actually go to the gym when I say I will. Is it wrong to want to cut these things out of my life, and should I gradually change them? Or just not return when I go back to college?
I think it’s great to try to improve your life and use a fresh start as a springboard for that. I would take some time to reflect deeply on your personal faith and figure out whether or not attending the ministry is going to lead you towards spiritual growth. I would say that the changes you want to make, such as getting a job and working out more often, are doable and commendable regardless of whether or not you continue to be involved in the campus ministry.
Schedule the things you need to do – classes, studying, exercise. If you need the money, add a part time job. Then decide what you have time for in addition to that.
I will say, every semester one of my kids had a significant other while in college, her grades were lower. The other one found a SO that was also a diligent student – her GPA went up. Keep that in mind if you do date in college.
Hey! I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through a tough transition right now. You said, “I want” a couple of times. Those are your goals to meet your needs. I wouldn’t hesitate at all to prioritize these. With that being said, I think you should gradually adjust to your new goals - try the gym once or twice a week, make time to study wherever it helps you the most, and then evaluate a part-time job once you’re happy with your grades & social wellbeing.