Learn Mah Jongg
Make two new friends (D asked, “how are you going to do that?”)
Become an adult and speak up in the moment (many would think I always have…but so many times let things go)
I did learn Mah Jongg and brought together many players. (this is bittersweet as some of the players are not getting along!)
Made 3 new friends.
Have only failed to say what I wanted to say three times this year. (I am impressed as I have not even been anxious)
It sounds like I am a passive person but that was not it–it is sometimes difficult to tell someone in the moment
that you do not agree with them or you did not like that they arrived late again. Most in my life would say I am the
most outspoken of all.
So!
My 2018 resolution is that I am going to evaluate my life and relationships in a new way.
“What is my truth in this situation?”
No more hoping that the friend who arrives 45 late is going to change.
Do I accept it? Do I not want to stop inviting her?
My resolution is to find a new job. I love my job in theory, but it is far too overwhelming for one person … and the work just keeps piling on. We are set to expand our program by 10% soon, but the powers-that-be don’t want to hear about what that means in terms of the work the worker-bees have to do. I am close to 60, and I would like to live long enough to enjoy retirement. I am not ready to retire, but for the sake of my continued health, I need to make a switch. But the fact that I am so old (in the eyes of others, not me!) is going to make the switch a challenge.
A couple years ago I found myself in the same situation. I loved my job, there were just parts of it that were just too much. So my resolution was “to have a new job, by the end of the year, even if it is the same job.” And that’t what I did. I figured out way to change my job so I get to do the parts I love but it actually increased company wide efficency and was more cost effective than the old way of doing things.
I am at a decision point and 2018 will see the result.
I will either retire when I hit the 40 year mark in July or I will have a new part-time job in a different department (where I could conceivably stay 3 years until FRA).
I no longer have the stamina for the ED’s high volume and high acuity.
What’s the saying…“the road to hell is paved with good intentions…”
I’ve accomplished a few things (yea for me!) but afraid I’m going to have to recycle a few old resolutions. This year is ending a bit too early so I’ll start afresh in the new year. Check back next year!
Years ago, when I was not yet a teenager, I resolved that New Year’s resolutions were not for me, as they were irrational and silly. Now, more than fifty years later, my resolve hasn’t weakened. If I choose to make a change in my life I try to implement it on a rational timeline, not based on an arbitrary date.
dos, she has some sort of built in time radar. Everyone who knows her has tried that.
One 22 people party I waited and waited for them to arrive (one hour 15 minutes) . I finally put my amazing dinner on the table and the doorbell rang. GF (?) and her H and D( who we had no idea was coming).
Yes, my hot food was on the table and everyone wanted to say hello to them…
Oh, the very best part is she simply said, “we went to the mountain today”.
I never invite them to anything that involves others now. I am sure she has noticed.
It is one thing to keep H and myself waiting but never again with a group.
Too many times…
Oh! and then her other D and BF arrived and are vegetarian (did not know they were coming).
I had a frozen veggie casserole so it was fine and I do love her kids. But really?
Ok, now this is a rant
Showed up 45 minutes late for the eclipse/ brunch. Just the 4 of us (good viewing from our deck).
Brought their huge dog without even asking. I love dogs just NOT this one.
But I now have decided to address these things as they happen. Nothing to lose!
And going to face what we have and not what I WISH we had together.
sherpa, got it. For some unknown reason I kept all of my 2017 resolutions with good results.
No idea why but my life is better for it.
It’s not exactly arbitrary. It IS the first day of a new year…a new beginning…a new resolution…not at all irrational, imo. Pretty logical time to make a change, though certainly not the only time to make a change. The biggest change I made this year was in June. And I just resolved to go even more all in this week, so I beat the new year with that one.
Will probably make a resolution or two this new year also. The deaths of my and my DH’s sibling this past month have us both thinking in several different directions that could bring us to some inspiration/enlightenment on a couple of fronts. We’ll see.
@Nrdsb4 , the deaths of a close coworker and a cousin this fall have had me thinking in different directions, as well. It’s sad that it takes death sometimes to help us see the importance of life. New Year’s is a good time to start fresh, and it’s as good a time as any to resolve to make positive changes in our lives.
