Given your grandson’s size, he might have taken more of a beating than normal in the birthing process (swelling, etc.) Plus they put that stuff in their eyes right after they are born. I bet he’ll look different a week from now.
Congratulations to all!
Congrats @oregon101 on your new grandbaby and to the new parents, also!
Congratulations on the birth of your healthy grandson. What an exciting time for all of you!
D sent me a picture of G’son today with the caption “your second Asian grandson”.
Hmmm. Not sure where she is coming from right now. But he looks far more like her South Korean brother than expected. He has lost one lb. and the puffiness is gone. He was really not attractive the first two days and now as cute as can be. Everyone is happy. It was just not expected and probably not notable except for her adopted brother.
I love these stories where non-blood relatives are seen as alike. I think, in part, it shows how we consider family something more than genetics. Much more. I have always gotten the comment, since my girls were little, that we Iook visibly related. (We really don’t.) Kids and adults would come up to me, out of the blue, and ask if I’m X’s mom. They’re adopted sisters from a different cultural mix. I’m even surprised this has happened a few times recently.
Congrats, oregon101, and thanks for sharing.
^sweet.
My favorite mom story is the time adopted S was playing on a playground and another mom asked me which kid was mine. I said it was the boy in the red jacket. She was confused and asked a couple of more times. I finally understood and said, “the Korean boy in the red jacket”. He was just simply my son. And evidently has found his way into our G’son :">
There was more than one boy with a red jacket?
She could not understand that he was my child. Or maybe accept?
It’s okay to be worried. The thing about kids and development is that some things pass, and some things don’t. Pay attention to those things that don’t when it is no longer appropriate that it didn’t pass. That’s hard, you have a gut feeling that something isn’t quite right, but you have to be patient that time will tell.
Thanks NM61.
Not yet worried though I might be soon. Mostly surprised.
She is 34 and had many tests and nothing showed up.
Probably will soon have a chance to find out what she is thinking. ( she is a doc and a realist ( but still a new mom)).
What’s always so cool, love no matter what! Humans are amazing at that!
I adopted my daughter from China and she went to a preschool-daycare in Chinatown from age 3.5 to 4.5. After a few weeks there, the Chinese aides there pulled me (white) aside and told me she looked more like me every day. NOT!
For what it’s worth, my sister-in-law (African American) and niece (my brother was white) have that fold in their eyes. They don’t look Asian at all–just beautiful!
Edited to add: congratulations to you and your family!
My conversation with the paternal grandfather was so weird tonight. When he mentioned they have some Slovakian heritage I mentioned that I had figured that out. He acted as if he never notice G’son’s eyes. That SIL looked just like that as a newborn. (Ok, so maybe they will change in a few weeks). He was careful as our half Korean grandson is here visiting. Just odd in that he seemed uncomfortable with the fact that it was noticed and mentioned. Like it was not suppose to be said or that he had not noticed? D and SIL bring it up easily. Actually, he acted as if it was not a real thing that the baby’s eyes
has an epicanthic fold.
Not everyone looks for epicanthic folds on babies’ eyes…
“Just odd in that he seemed uncomfortable with the fact that it was noticed and mentioned.”
I think it is kind of odd you seem so focused on the shape of the babies eyes if the baby’s doctors find no cause for concern. Do you have some concerns you aren’t stating here?
“When he mentioned they have some Slovakian heritage I mentioned that I had figured that out.”
What does this even mean?
The thread topic is about the baby’s eyes. How is it over focused to continue to talk about the baby’s eyes?
Basically everyone in my mom’s family (our very blue-eyed family) has that fold as a baby. We just attribute it to our great-great-great-great grandparents, the Huns
I just went and looked at my half-Asian, half-white cousins’ baby pictures and they didn’t have the fold. Go figure.
My youngest son is half Asian and white. I don’t have typical looking Asian eyes but when my son was a newborn and through his first year, he had very Asian looking eyes. Fast forward 17 years and my son looks nothing like he did when he was a baby! Hardly anyone can accurately guess his mix.
S and G’s son where with everyone and the new baby looks just like them. D and SIL have mentioned it a number of times. Everyone is aware that he could look very different within months. Guess it is notable in our family as it came as a surprise and because of our family make-up. The picture of S and G’son holding the baby is so sweet–It looks like S has a new baby and G’son has a new brother.
It seemed as if the paternal grandfather was uncomfortable and for that I was sorry. No one else has been including D and SIL’s friends and labor coach and doctor who have all made their own comments. (all loving- just saying the obvious) I do not know him well and will not assume any meaning to his response. Baby is thriving which is really all that matters. I have found some of the stories here interesting!