I’ve been in college for more than 1 momth now and I haven’t made any friend yet, I sit with people who are extrovert and outgoing but I don’t click with them, and I get vibe that they don’t like me and wants to exlude me. I am socially awkard, shy and have social anxiety and I be with them just to not look alone. I wanted to be friend with one guy who I thought would be introvert like me as he was sitting alone in the starting but I just saw his FB profile and he has already made friends in class. Everyone have got friends group and I am becoming depressed now. There’s no so many clubs to join, or counselling here. I am feeling Isolated, sad, left out and there’s no one like me in class, please help what should I do I don’t wanna live like this.
I feel this way too. There are plenty of people feeling this way. You can’t see the people who are isolated because we’re, well, isolated, but that doesn’t mean you are the only one feeling alone. Maybe you can take some comfort in that.
There are definitely many other first year students who are feeling exactly the same way. Some of them have also started threads on CC. It takes more than a month to make friends. Some other students will look like they have made friends already, but after one month they won’t know the friends very well and are likely to change friends over time.
If you are introverted then you might find that you get along better with other introverted people. Some of them might also be having trouble making friends.
If you live in a dorm, then at dinner time you might want to knock on the doors of a few other students who live in nearby rooms and just ask “do you want to go to dinner”.
Joining a club is a good way to meet people. You say that there aren’t many clubs, and in general most of the clubs are likely to be of no interest to you, but you only need to find one or two that are interesting.
I used to attend international meetings with about a thousand attendees, most of whom I didn’t know. After a while I started at meals just sitting down next to someone who was sitting alone. In general this worked out quite well and might be worth trying. You probably are going to need to do this more than once before you start making friends.
I know that you said you are shy and socially awkward, but I’m curious - what do you do when you sit with these people?
Because I mean…simply sitting nearby some folks is not going to endear you to them. Nor is sitting nearby and throwing out random things into their conversation every so often. And if you are sitting near them/with them just not to appear alone, it’s possible they are picking up on that and it’s creeping them out. That may be why they want to exclude you.
Also, just because people have already formed a group of friends doesn’t mean they won’t let you in it, or form another group with you. Many people have several groups of friends they hang out with for different reasons.
Please read this: http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/2016222-to-those-who-feel-lonely-homesick-friendless-think-they-chose-the-wrong-school-etc.html#latest
How long did it take to make friends with kids from home? People that you have known for years versus people you have known for month are going to be easier to form friendships with. You have to give it more time. It will come, but not in a month. Just keep being yourself and I promise you will have friends in college.
No there are no clubs, I have a classroom of 60 people and I have to be with them for 10 hours, and I don’t live in dorm. I do have some friends but they are in different classes so we just meet in lunch for 30 minutes. Everyone in my classroom seems to have made a friend circle now I’m afraid
Lindagaf: Thanks for nice words…
I will see 
I am trying to picture a college or university that has no clubs, and in which you spend 10 hours a day with the same 60 people with one 30 minute lunch break.
collegemom3717 - It is like that for most of the colleges in India.
& in other countries as well, @Hatchster- but I’m guessing that most of us thought that you were in college in the US (CC being a US site & this not being the International forum on CC and all that). That you are in India would have been a useful piece of context for other posters.
@Hatchster There is no reason not to be friends with that one guy because he has FB friends. You’re over thinking this. You can be friends with people who have friends. Try that person. And try to relax. This will be a short time in your life.
I have been in school for 2 and half years and I have no one to call my real friend: just someone I hang out because I feel comfortable around. Not a big deal.
I am also shy, socially awkward, and have social anxiety! I feel the same way as I had a really nice group of close friends in highschool.
I’m a freshman now, but I honestly feel as if friendships in college don’t really matter. Everyone is so busy and has different schedules, different majors, and everything changes after the semester is over and a new one starts.
However, I have made a few, I guess you could say, “friends”, in my classes. If you regularly sit next to the same people or person in class, maybe say hi everytime they come to class and sit down. Also, if you are a female (maybe this works with guys? I don’t know…) I usually can start a conversation up with a compliment about the other person’s clothes or whatever. It’s how I became friends with a girl in my class, and she then introduced me to her other friends and invited me to sit with them.
Other than that, whenever I heard people talking about something that interests me, I would always force myself to add to the conversation. Common interests are great for making friends!
Good luck and remember that friends aren’t everything in college! 
Well done, @chelleshao, for having done so well so early in your first year!
You are likely to find that friendships in college do matter, that the good ones take time to develop, and that they do so through shared experience. The shared experience can be an EC, if you get involved and stay involved with one in which you are genuinely interested.
It is also very often through your major, where the same people turning up in your classes over the semesters. On another thread you mention that you are a CS major. Some people might say that CS students are not typically the most outgoing of students, and some people might be right- but as a teacher of engineering students and the parent of a physics major, with quite a few physics, math and engineering students in my orbit, I can tell you that they can and do develop friend groups. It might take a time but they get there. Study groups are often a good way for that to happen.
On your other thread you mention being disappointed in your first round of results at college. Please know that many students stumble when they first hit college, and it often hits the highest achievers hardest. The ones who ‘won’ HS are sometimes caught off-guard by the differences between HS and college. Right now you are playing a new game with old rules, and you just need to make the jump to the new ones. “Just” might make it sound as if it will be easy, which it won’t be, but somebody with your track record is absolutely able to do it.
As @NorthernMom61 (a veteran CC poster, who really knows what she is talking about) pointed out you have a lot of resources available to you: professors, TAs, academic supports (help centers, etc) as well as online resources.
First step: look at your own tests and try to analyze what the underlying problems were. Did you understand the material, but run out of time? Did you focus your study in the wrong areas? Were you fine on the material covered in class, but not on the material you were meant to do on your own? Did they ask for solutions to be done in a different way than you are used to? and so on. Once you have teased out for yourself as much as you can, break it down. Figure out who is likely to be able to help you figure out solutions: learning center? TA? Prof? Be prepared to accept that you might have to learn different ways of studying. And…
Start a study group for yourself, especially in any subject where you are unsure of yourself (see how this circles back around to the original part of the post?!). Approach the most approachable person in (say) Calc and straight out ask ‘would you be interested in making a small study group for the next exam?’ The study group may only last that exam or that semester- doesn’t matter. You will be getting both an academic and social resource. Many first years are hesitant about being the first to reach out, but as the terms progress you are likely to end up in multiple study groups. Might as well be ahead of the curve as not!
You really can do this
(apologies to the OP for hijacking the thread)
Thank you so much, @collegemom3717 ! Your post definitely made me feel better. I just asked a friend of mine in CS (who was also disappointed with his score) if he wanted to study together from here on out. I’ll ask a few kids in calc today too if they want to form a study group. I’ve actually never tried studying with others, I assumed I do fine on my own since highschool really had no study groups.
I almost forgot about getting the tests back (haha, it’s so weird because in highschool I would usually get them back the day after or something, in college the wait feels longer) but when I get them back I definitely will look at what I did wrong and work on improving that next time!
Again, thank you for taking your time to write that!
Chelleshao: Nothing changes after first semester. I have to be with same people for this 4 year course. Thanks for your advice though would definitely try that!