<p>A few months ago I posted about a co-op preschool/day care that operates in a room out of a Jewish Modern Orthodox synagogue. It does not have the use of the facility’s kitchen. Because of the kosher requirements of the location, the children bring their own dairy/vegetarian/vegan lunch and snack daily. There is one certified teacher; it is otherwise staffed by parent volunteers on a rotating basis, and different children attend on different schedules.</p>
<p>A family had applied for their 18 month old daughter…who has severe allergies to peanuts/all nuts, legumes,wheat, eggs and dairy. It caused quite a bit of debate as to whether the child should be accepted or not. Other children routinely brought pb&j, bagels with cream cheese, hummus with chips, granola bars, cookies etc. and the co-op worried both about the child’s safety and the liability, especially given the young ages of the children.</p>
<p>The co-op asked the family to let the child have a trial day before making a decision on the application. On the trial day, the other children’s families were instructed on what not to bring–but there was still some confusion, and the other families were not happy with the limitations, and although willing to go along for one day, indicated that they would not be happy to go along with it on a permanent basis. The day of the trial, the allergic child was given her lunch and her snack at a separate table, with a volunteer assigned to keep her away from the main table, just in case…</p>
<p>The trial day did not go well for a lot of reasons. the parents did not appreciate their little girl being segregated, but the staff was worried about something being brought in that could have been a trigger. The staff felt the pinch of having a staff member assigned to just one child, leaving fewer people to help with the rest of the group. It is hard to keep children from “sampling” each others food, and keeping all hands of other children wiped before they contaminate something like a toy or the back of a chair, or the table top…it was just too much, and the co-op declined the application of the little girl.</p>
<p>Things might have worked better with older children, but these were all pre-schoolers.</p>
<p>However, I also understood the parents’ upset with their childrens’ lunches and snacks being so severely limited for the needs of the one child. Many parents from non-kosher homes already felt limited by the requirement that all food be dairy or vegetarian–and, given that many toddlers are picky eaters, felt that their children’s diets were going to be too circumscribed.</p>
<p>ON the other hand, there is also a lot of sympathy for the child’s family. It is certainly scary to have such an allergic child. And the co-op is wonderful, and relatively inexpensive for the quality of care it delivers. (and the girl’s family did not want to commit to having a parent there at any time the child was in the facility–of course, part of the reason for using day care is to have the child taken care of while you do something else!)</p>
<p>For a while there was talk of a lawsuit, but apparently that threat has gone away.</p>
<p>But the discussion in this thread shows that the issue does not go away with age.</p>