I’m 21 years old and I go to a community college. I have friends but not outside of school. Here’s the thing. No one ever ask me to hang out with them. My friends I’ve made in college doesn’t ask me to hang out with them. However, I’ve tried so hard inviting my friends to do something with me but it never happens. I literally only see my friends in school and that’s it. To be honest, this has been going on since elementary school. Every year, I’ve spent all summer not seeing anyone I know from school. For example, my friend invited me to Six Flags New England and I said “Yes”, and he said “Cool”. So as time goes on and the date was getting closer, I texted him how we’re getting there, no response. I texted him later and no response. Then the day before we were suppose to go to six flags, he finally texted me say “I left to go to Florida”. Out of nowhere and decided to tell me the very last minute. I don’t want to lose my college friends just like what happened to my high school friends. During high school, my friends and I never see each other on weekend and holiday breaks. The moment after graduation, that was last time seeing them (2 and a half years and counting). The friends that come home from college unannounced doesn’t bother to contact me also I don’t know their schedule. We live in the exact same city and once winter/summer break is over, they go back to school unannounced. It’s weird how we’re connected on Facebook and Instagram, but they’ll talk to me if I talk/send a message to them first. So I decided to just accept the fact that we’ve drifted apart and basically forget about them since I never come across their mind. My college friends are basically my high school friends but I don’t want that to happen. I’m tired of being a home 24/7. All I do is school, work and home. Plus, I’m not going to be in school forever just to have friends. People always wonder why I never go out and I’m like “Gee, I don’t know. You tell me”. I honestly cannot wait to transfer to a university and start a new life.
Why don’t you set up the activity? Ask a friend to go to a movie, a bar, an amusement park. Don’t make it months away, make it next week.
I literally just said I tried so hard inviting my friends to do something with me but it never happens.
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Have you tried joining clubs or activities? They may have “let’s go somewhere and do something” events built in.