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How many of u had inheritable traits in mind when choosing a partner?
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One of my very good friends told me that she stopped dating her long-time BF when she found out that he had two siblings with serious mental illnesses.
The odds of me having natural children is low so genes didn’t really enter into the picture. I do jokingly tell Mr R that the only reason I married him was so that l could have ginger babies.
For height, I’d love it if any daughters were shorter than us. I’m 6’ and he’s a few inches taller. Being this tall as a woman is hard. We’re both taller than our parents so there is a good chance they’ll be slightly shorter than us.
Yes it’s shallow but I don’t think I could date a guy shorter than me. I’ve been with women shorter than me though and find that to be my preference.
I don’t think it’s wrong to have physical preferences. We all have them whether we admit them or not.
A friend of mine, a female physician, married a civil eng that is bi-polar. Two of their 3 sons are bi-polar. She accepted the challenges and seems happy.
H’s maternal GF was tall; as a result all 3 brothers and H are 5’11 - 6’4". My dad was 5’10 and mom was 5’2. I am the tallest at almost 5’8; one DD is 5’9, the other is 5’6.
I know some men over-compensate for whatever feelings they have for lack of height and exude confidence, business acumen, good as salesman, etc.
My neighbor guy is short and little - no taller than 5’3" and his size is boys sizes - he has to special order dress pants, suits. His W is 5’6", and both kids are as tall or taller than W.
Did anyone watch the episodes about these 4 tall gals (6’5" - 6’10") - the tallest was a HS basket ball player with a very tall mom; both her brothers were like 7’1" and 7’ - they get stared at where-ever they go, and of course get the comments. The gal got asked to homecoming by the guy she wanted to go with, and he was quite a bit shorter (he also was a friend of one of the brothers). Two of the tall gals had dads that were very tall; the other I don’t remember. One gal married a guy that was quite a bit shorter, but it was clear they loved each other and they just have to blot out the staring she gets when out in public (she played volleyball in HS, college, and now in Europe). It is clear many men will not date a gal taller than them, or at least at the extreme tall (for women, over 5’10" IMHO). The one tall gal was a business professional, very attractive, her best friends were two gay guys that seemed to be a lot of fun to hang out with - she also had a very good girl friend that was 5’2" - their personalities just clicked. This gal had a banana fruit basket hanging from the ceiling. The one gal showed how easy it was to clean top of refrigerator, ceiling fans, etc.
I know two gals that both married guys 6’2" while they were both 5’2". Both the gals had very outgoing personalities.
Some guys are attracted to tiny petite women.
I never dated anyone shorter than me, but I did like guys shorter than me.
In China it is simple, the guy must be taller, older, richer, and better educated.
http://www.economist.com/blogs/freeexchange/2013/07/chinas-marriage-market
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She’s a bigger person than I am, then! It’s VERY difficult for me.
^ The operative word being “seems”. (I’m with you @MaineLonghorn )
Height is only a problem in dating if you allow it to be. My brother is 5"6" and has always had beautiful girlfriends and now has a beautiful wife. His very good friend from high school was 5"4" and had more beautiful girlfriends than any person I knew.
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Sorry, but I find a height criteria just a little bit shallow.
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It is, and I own it. lol
I don’t know why, but from the get-go I was attracted to taller men. I was half-joking about the not wanting to shrink my kids. My attraction to taller me existed long before I had those thoughts.
Who knows why we are attracted to certain features. I once had the mom of a girl in my son’s kindergarten class tell me that her DD told her not to braid her waist-length hair anymore, “because (my son) likes her hair worn down.” (oh my! lol…starts early, I guess.)
I think it’s fine and normal to be attracted to certain features/body types, including height. Where it becomes strange to me is if you totally fell in love with someone, were soulmates etc but broke it off because he wasn’t tall enough, or had blond hair instead of brown. I fell in love with a varied assortment of men over the years and didn’t really have a height requirement. My husband is average height and so is my son.
I wasn’t just ragging on you, mom2, I was ragging on all the posters who didn’t like short guys 
Almost all of the guys I dated were under 6 feet tall except for one, and … shall we say… umm… he wasn’t evenly distributed
Under 6 feet does not constitute short by any measure. Short for a man would be under 5’5".
Let me rephrase. My s’s are 5’7ish. They consider themselves short. They may statistically average, but it doesn’t always feel that way. Let’s say they are not tall.
Lol @jym626 >:)
Dated a variety of women …
The bar is set differently for dating vs marrying. Dating somebody “entertaining” like Kim Kardashian is not the same thing as being willing to marry somebody like KK.
Harvest you are being generous, I am 5"7" and I consider myself short. In fact when I buy a suit the fit is short. I believe 5’7 or 8" is the cutoff for short in a men’s suit
I watched the show about the tall females, because one is a friend of my sister’s, and played with her close friend’s daughter. My sister and her friends helped raise kids who could earn volleyball scholarships. I went to,championship games in Orlando, and have followed some of these girls since.
It’s not easy being a very tall female, as it’s not so easy being a short man, under 5’5"
I am not quite 5’1" @tom1944, so from my vantage point anything over 5’5" still looks tall to me!
Good point, Tom. My dh, at about 5’9 or so, may be average in height. Sons are shorter. I tell myself the cell growth occurred in their brains, not their bones (and …)
She can’t use dip.