You see any hair under my blue cap?
Unemloyed will be a deal breaker
If you’re bald, embrace it. I think of Mike Love of the Beach Boys who started losing hair very early and always wears a baseball cap. Who are we kidding here?
Smoking would be a deal breaker.
My H and I aren’t always politically on the same page, but it’s not a problem for us. We are both socially liberal though.
"The wife and I had a talk about a week ago as to what we would recommend to our kids as dealbreakers and it came to only two things:
- If the parents are divorced, they will need to have a frank talk about the existing relationships;"
Plenty of people stay married in loveless, bad, even abusive relationships. There’s no honor in that. And plenty of people are able to show self-care by getting out of a bad relationship. I think it’s a little odd to think that still married = good and divorced = dysfunctional.
“2. No psychotropic medications. Mrs. Mags is in healthcare and sees the strain of mental illness on families and would prefer our kids play the odds to avoid it.”
Yes, it’s so much better to leave mental illness untreated.
Oh - cats would be a deal breaker. I’m highly allergic and couldn’t live with them.
I had a smoking friend. She was so good at smoking properly, you wouldn’t know she was a smoker. Before her, I was sure I could always detect a smoker from a mile away. Many times it’s how you do it than what you do. I bet what you think a deal breaker now may not be an issue at all and what you think is compatible may become a issue.
Smoking shows so much stupidity and disregard for one’s health that it would never NOT be a deal breaker in my world.
Did you ever French-kiss your friend?
“Smoking properly” might be the most hilarious thing on the internet today!
How can you not smell smoke on someone’s hair and breath and clothing, unless every time they smoked, they took a complete shower, changed clothes and brushed teeth?
I can smell if the person in the car ahead of me is smoking, so of course I could smell it “live.”
I think I’m having second thought regarding Brad Pitt, he is a smoker. But so is Angelina Jolie( I think.). They must be smoking properly.
For one thing, she always smoked outside or out the window. Other than that, I have no idea what she did. Maybe she smoked before taking shower only. My parents didn’t smoke when I was growing up. As a result, I am quite sensitive to the smell of cigarette smoke.
It wasn’t a deal breaker for them,
How about Mary Matalin and James Carville.
I love this “Shouts and Murmurs” piece by Mindy Kaling. Pretty accurately sums up what a lot of women are seeking.
http://www.newyorker.com/humor/daily-shouts/a-perfectly-reasonable-request
LOL, nottelling! Mindy’s piece is hysterical. 
Mindy is hilarious! I love this part… “I just want him to love his job; I don’t care about how much money he makes. Just as long as it pays enough to give me the option to go back to work part-time if I decide to professionally pursue my hobby, which is photographing cool manicures for Instagram.”
Intelligence and humor. I’ve dated someone with both of those qualities (also extremely charming and nice) who isn’t as conventionally good looking as someone else I have dated, who is also nice and charming but isn’t particularly funny or intelligent.
Funny-smart less-good-looking guy wins.
Couple of deal breakers (fortunately don’t have to worry about it, been married a lot of years:)
Smoking
dishonesty
Living life afraid of what other people think
religious where they think it is license to judge or hate other people
High-maintenance-religion people are irritating.