<p>I sent in a petition to have my mother’s financial information waived for the CSS profile due to pretty harsh circumstances between the two of us. I sent in a letter explaining that she has not, does not, and will not ever emotionally or financially support me in any way. In addition, my psychiatrist sent in a letter. Every school accepted it except for Mount Holyoke.</p>
<p>That’s funny, I got a letter from Mount Holyoke the same day saying I was at the top of their applicant pool and they hoped I would keep them at the top of my list.
Uh, not if I’m not getting financial aid, no.
They also said that they would contact my mother if needed.
That’s a HUGE problem for me. I told them not to, so I’m not really sure where to go from here. =/</p>
<p>*They also said that they would contact my mother if needed.
That’s a HUGE problem for me. I told them not to, *</p>
<p>May I ask why that is a huge problem? It could work in your favor if they try to contact her. If they see that she’s uncooperative, then they may change their minds about the waiver.</p>
<p>At this point, what harm could come from them contacting her? AT this point without a waiver, you won’t get aid to go to this school, so it’s kind of off your list…so no harm could happen if they attempt to contact her right?</p>
<p>I agree with Mom2…how can this be a bad thing…if your mom totally agrees with everything you have written requesting the exception then she is confirming your story and there is the slimmest of possibilities the college might change your package. If she agrees to fund something then that, too, is to your benefit. If you want to go to this school where is the harm?</p>
<p>Thank you guys for being optimistic people! </p>
<p>In short, there was abuse and the police were involved with me finally leaving her house. My mom is adamant about me not going to college and tries to stop me whenever possible. Honestly, I am afraid of her coming after me since she knows where I live now.
I’ve sent in a request for a copy of the custody order, but this was in January and it still isn’t in.</p>
<p>unless it’s your number one choice, just forget about Mount Holyoke. If it’s such a Money grubbing school that’s willing to neglect what you’ve told them just to get more money, screw that. Hey, my answer isn’t sugar coated, but I know what you’re going through, and just from my point of view, I wouldn’t take money from my “parent” like that when I could go to other schools without having to take money from them.</p>
<p>I agree…if they aren’t willing to work with you on this, it really may show what kind of cooperation you will get from them in the future. I would take them off the list and move on.</p>
<p>My mom is adamant about me not going to college and tries to stop me whenever possible. Honestly, I am afraid of her coming after me since she knows where I live now.</p>
<p>Oh my. I am so sorry. Is it possible to get a protective order? If so, maybe Mt Holyoke would accept that. </p>
<p>I think Mt Holyoke is just trying to make sure of the situation. I can imagine that some/many of these colleges that require NCP info get some requests for waivers that aren’t justified like yours would be. </p>
<p>Is there another adult who could intervene on your behalf with the university?</p>
<p>I got a letter from Mount Holyoke the same day saying I was at the top of their applicant pool and they hoped I would keep them at the top of my list.</p>
<p>Was there a name on the above communication? Would you feel comfortable contacting that person and telling them the situation with the waiver request? This person may be involved with enrollment management. If so, those people can wield some power.</p>
<p>But…if you’re fine with moving on and crossing this school off your list, then do so.</p>
<p>I’m trying to think of people to ask. My psychiatrist has already contacted them, so the only think I can think of is to call and cry on the phone haha. </p>
<p>The letter is from the Dean of Admissions. I’d really hate to eliminate MHC completely; I think I’d qualify for a lot of aid and I’m a possible equestrian recruit. I’ve emailed Student Financial Services and I’m waiting on them.</p>
<p>I noticed that your location says you live in Providence. Mt. Holyoke is about 2 hours from you. Perhaps you can make an appointment and go there to speak with them in person. It would seem to me that going there would make a pretty compelling case and if you are easily able to get there, it could really help. Just a thought. Good luck!</p>
<p>Since your letter is from the Dean of Admissions, that is a person who would have tremendous influence over the FA office. If you can’t meet with him/her in person, then send a polite letter, (including copy of any documentation), and ask if he/she could intervene for you.</p>
<p>I’m so sorry about your situation. I would call Mt. Holyoke (or meet with them in person) and make it clear that they are NOT to contact your mother. Safety first!!!</p>
<p>After that, explain the situation to them again. If they still refuse to consider the non-custodial waiver, cross them off your list. At least all the other schools listened to you.</p>