NYT Vows

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<p>Nottelling, I wonder if the endorphins that you feel when having sex with someone new cause temporary brain damage.</p>

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<p>OMG, I am so glad someone posted about this! I saw it when it came out and was completely disgusted. The woman especially seemed so smug. Ick.</p>

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<p>Weren’t they lovely, Gourmetmom? And we got to see great dancing, too!</p>

<p>Don’t the armed services frown on this kind of thing? Is the Coast Guard different? I can’t imagine this will do much for his career.</p>

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<p>I don’t know who to be more disgusted with. The man for cheating on and abandoning the mother of his children? Or the woman for being a willing participant? </p>

<p>I wonder how that woman will feel when he finds his new flavor of the week.</p>

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<p>Every few months Vows features a marriage that has an “imperfect beginning”. The video makes the situation more cringeworthy than usual.</p>

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<p>In the first - yuck - video, what struck me was how matter of fact they were, especially the woman, about “how to move forward, how to do this as a family”. What about “how to break someone’s heart? How to tear apart the lives of children?”. Not to say that divorce should always be avoided, but I hate it when people fool themselves about their own part in some play. Face up to what you’ve done, stop pretending and sugarcoating and it will be better for everyone in the long run. </p>

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<p>If you marry a cheater, your husband (or wife) is a cheater. I like this comment from a blog:

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<p>NYMomof2, I love the Robert Fairchild/Tiler Peck segment. So adorable.</p>

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<p>This is a thing? Beyond tacky. </p>

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<p>Wow. What an upside-down world we live in. :(</p>

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<p>Just watched the second video - what a point about relying on your partner to always be there…of course, the original wife in the first video wasn’t able to do that.</p>

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<p>Vince Taylor - an officer but NOT a gentleman. Ick.</p>

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<p>NYMomof2 - what a great story! Thanks for highlighting it. </p>

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<p>My husband can’t imagine why I read the NYT vows–I think the stories are fascinating. Great chic lit. </p>

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<p>I let my husband see the video and he had more of a problem with the fact that the children were present during the filming. His comment was that he thought the video was a passive aggressive way of “sticking it to” the ex. But he also noted that we know nothing about the ex - maybe she wanted out or there was some very good reason he wanted out.</p>

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<p>This column attracted similar vitriol a few years back. In this case, they were BOTH married with children, and met at their children’s shared school. The bride asks herself whether they were “brave” enough to leave both existing families.</p>

<p><a href=“Carol Anne Riddell and John Partilla: VOWS - The New York Times”>http://www.nytimes.com/2010/12/19/fashion/weddings/19vows.html&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

<p>There was lots of reaction from many sides:</p>

<p><a href=“http://www.huffingtonpost.com/tag/carol-anne-riddell-john-partilla-vows/”>HuffPost - Breaking News, U.S. and World News | HuffPost;

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<p>My favorite part of the Riddell/Partilla story is this:</p>

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<a href=“Carol Anne Riddell and John Partilla: The New York Times 'Vows' Saga Recap | HuffPost Life”>HuffPost - Breaking News, U.S. and World News | HuffPost;

<p>Imagine his surprise when he discovered that when he and his new wife bragged about how they had broken up two families of young children for their own Twue Wuv, people thought they were slimemolds. Who could have predicted that?</p>

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<p>I’m not a fan of public exchange of vows (why do people need to talk about their deeply private stuff in front of an audience?!), and these are absolutely horrible. </p>

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We are very good friends with a couple who did just that. Both were married to other people and the husband had a young son. They are both very close-mouthed about the whole thing. We knew both of them had had brief marriages before but we’d known them for years before we heard the whole story. </p>

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<p>I think Riddell’s ex-husband said it best:</p>

<p>In a follow-up piece Tuesday, Riddell’s ex-husband Bob Ennis called the piece a “choreographed, self-serving piece of revisionist history” and shot back:</p>

<p>“The primary story here is not that interesting. People lie and cheat and steal all the time. That’s a fact of life. But rarely does a national news organization give them an unverified megaphone to whitewash it.”</p>