<p>Nope, not true. The vows column is part of the paper’s editorial content, as are the more neutral wedding announcements that they publish in the regular pages. Newspapers have a section for paid announcements for funerals and the like but those are written by the people who submit them and are clearly separated from the paper’s editorial content.</p>
<p>Interesting how you have to pay for funeral announcements and not wedding announcements. </p>
<p>But if it were one of your own children or a brother or sister? Would anyone advise them to stay in the marriage? </p>
<p>I think people are objecting, not to the guy’s divorce, but to the way it happened and even more to the way the divorce is presented: as an obstacle that the heroic couple surmounted on the way to their Twue Wuv, rather than as a painful situation that they were responsible for.</p>
<p>Right we all agree that the whole video and the way it presented the divorce was objectionable. But personally I struggle with what I would tell a family member or close friend if they came to me for advice after finding themselves in a similar situation. Stay or leave?</p>
<p>Seems others share that struggle.</p>
<p>Is there an affair already? The term fall in love is very vague. I personally never advise anybody on anything like this. They have to make the decision themselves, even if they are my own kids.</p>
<p>I don’t understand it. It reminds me of the whole Eddie Cibrian-LeAnn Rimes things I keep seeing in the tabloids.</p>
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<p>I wouldn’t give advice of that nature. I’d tell them to talk to an unbiased therapist (who probably also won’t advise them to stay or leave) who could help them make sense of their feelings so that they can come to their own decision about what to do.</p>
<p>The only time I would ever advise someone to leave would be if there was abuse going on, and even then, there is risk involved and it cannot be undertaken lightly.</p>
<p>I think we all recognize that marriage-destroying relationships do happen. We all know people who have gone through this. My only advice to a friend or family member would be: don’t flaunt it, and don’t expect everyone else to understand or sympathize with you. These people are an extreme example but I know several other couples who have been so googly-eyed over each other that they don’t realize how they are coming across to others.</p>
<p>The other thing that is bizarre about this story is that it got picked up by syndicates literally all over the world. I for one did not find the story that interesting on its face; nor do I see either spouse as especially likable. </p>
<p>I know a couple like that, who is googly eyed over each other. They each left long-term marriages with 3 and 4 kids respectively to find one another. I do not begrudge them their happiness and I’m sure there are always more to stories than we as outsiders know. Nonetheless, on Facebook (which is where I see her), it’s just a little much about how they are so much in love, and meant for one another, and declarations of love and “I miss you darling” and yada yada. I think discretion is the better part of valor in these circumstances. It is undoubtedly hurtful to some of their friends who knew them each as part of a couple and still care for the jilted one to read how nothing mattered til the new one came along. And I really, really hope they have privacy settings so that their kids don’t read this. </p>
<p>“But if it were one of your own children or a brother or sister? Would anyone advise them to stay in the marriage?”</p>
<p>Absent an abusive situation, I have concluded that I have no business telling anyone else how to manage their marriage. The old country song - no one knows what goes on behind closed doors - is very true. </p>
<p>I do not think people should stay in unhappy marriages but I strongly believe they should leave those marriages prior to doing a test run of another relationship.</p>
<p>I would never advise someone (including my child) in such a matter. What qualifications do I have? There are many lives affected here, and only the individuals divorcing or staying bear that responsibility. </p>
<p>Maybe we “all agree that the whole video and the way it presented the divorce was objectionable”, HarvestMoon1, but I think that IS the issue here.</p>
<p>We all know families that were split apart and yet survived after a divorce.And as satisfying as it is to predict that Coast Guard Guy will surely cheat on Snotty New Wife, I’m sure that we all know of some second marriages that began with affairs and yet lasted. It’s something that happens, but it’s not something to be proud of, especially for the smug new wife, who seems to be sensitivity deficient.</p>
<p>And while this does seem to be a new phenomenon, this crowing about the triumph of the new “love” over the old marriage, I remember working in an office with a woman who did much the same thing when I was a young girl. She just didn’t have as many opportunities to brag about it, due to the absence of Facebook and the NYT’s focus on actual news stories in those days.</p>
<p>Count me in as someone who’d like to do something else with that bubble wand.</p>
<p>^^^Okay, that is just funny.</p>
<p>No boundaries or class in the showing of that video. </p>
<p>OK, now I’m playing. Out of curiosity, I Googled the bride-to-be and came across her LinkedIn site. She is a communications consultant and has a graduate degree in journalism.
Most intriguing to me was a comment she made in a recommendation for a former colleague: “She knew how clients wanted their quotes or articles to sound, as well as what sensitive subjects to avoid or appropriately finesse.” Guess she appreciates that ability in someone else, but somehow does not see how it might be helpful to herself. </p>
<p>IMO her theme song could be “Love’s Made Me a Fool”
You think true love-a has come at last
But bye and bye you’re gonna find
Crazy love-a has-a made you blind</p>
<p>I found this article while googling for some recipes, bride-to-be might be a baggage to her job with her online stuff especially with her major.
<a href=“http://online.wsj.com/articles/tackling-stereotypes-before-your-job-interview-1407024409?mod=Your_Money_newsreel_3”>http://online.wsj.com/articles/tackling-stereotypes-before-your-job-interview-1407024409?mod=Your_Money_newsreel_3</a>
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<p>Oh it’s so much romanticized drivel coming out of the mouths of these two self-absorbed people. I doubt he gave much thought to his children whatsoever. I’m no fan of employers, especially the federal government, sticking their noses into the private lives of government employees, but surely the Coast Guard doesn’t admire such behavior in a Lt. Commander?</p>
<p>Didn’t David Petraeus lose his job for having an affair? I guess their story is that they didn’t have an affair until after he was divorced, but still. It sounds like he was on a good career track. I doubt that this will do him any good.</p>
<p>Petraeus is not divorced, he is still married to his wife.</p>