If there is a way to work that into the hearing that might be very helpful to him. There is discretion and no hearing officer wants to destroy a kids life because of something so small. They might think- eh its not a big deal to have something like this on his record- but hearing of a specific tangible item he would lose might move the needle for him. Something like- if there is any way I could have a warning or do community service to have this eliminated from my record b/c I am applying for this specific grant, etc.
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This isnāt a court of law and so āpleading guiltyā is off the table.
He should plan to walk in and be transparent- he should have more forcefully kicked his friend out of the room when he realized the friend wasnāt planning on respecting the housing rules. He very much regrets this. He is extremely sorry that he inconvenienced the RA, his dormmates who were bothered by whatever odor was being emitted, he has learned his lesson that he needs to make sure that anyone with "guest privilegesā in his dorm room is as meticulous in following the rules as he is. And thank the person/people in the room for taking the time to listen and meet with him in person. And volunteer to meet with anyone else in the administration they suggest to make sure they are all on the same page.
Sending him good vibes.
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Does the school have a parentās FB page? Maybe you could post on there to see if anybody has direct experience with the same type of situation?
I would imagine no body is going to admit on FB that their kid was in an administrative hearing for drug use/possession on campus.
If that happened to us, I certainly would not openly talk about this on FB.
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On ours you can post anonymously.
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just for kicks, post the question and see how many people reply. Curious mind wants to knowā¦
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Parents anonymously post stuff like that all the time on my kidsā schoolsā FB pages! (and usually receive tons of helpful feedback)
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And they get answers? Well, whatās the verdict?
Here I am, I was going to suggest OP search the local court dockets for College as defendant in administrative appeals. Look for lawyers whose name consistently appear and get legal representation at the hearing from THAT person.
On ours Iāve definitely seen a few posts about students accused of academic misconduct, and they have generally gotten very good advice about how to handle it. I havenāt seen weed yet, although it would not surprise me at all to see such a thread.
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That could be a good idea too. Iām not going to post a fake question but I have seen questions about things like that and people have suggested local lawyers.
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I donāt remember many specificsā¦for smoking/drinking mostly just meet with the Dean and get told not to do it again. My Dās school had a 3x limit then more onerous consequences would kick in (but I donāt know what they were). Some academic misconduct suspensions and expulsions.
The most consequential, controversial and divisive issues were during covidā¦where kids breaking the ārulesā were sent home (allowed to study remotely) and seniors not allowed to walk in graduation.
Iāve seen a decent number of FB parents saying that their kid is being accused of using AI in a class.
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Iāve seen questions regarding underaged drinking, fake IDās, speeding tickets, etc. with a lot of experienced feedback on how to handle the situation (lawyers, fines, community service, special classesā¦). Folks are very helpful.
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My advice. Donāt put anything on Facebook. I really think that is a bad way to go. You are unlikely to get any āhelpfulā advice. There are tons of private college counselors around. You may have to spend some money to get their advice.
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Why? Iāve seen so many similar situations where the parents have some great advice based on their own experiences (and folks can post anonymously).
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Itās usually not rocket science to figure out who the anonymous poster is in these situations. Same with work and school surveys. In my youth, I had to tell my wife and now Iām older, I tell my kids, never put anything on paper or online that they donāt want coming back.
Hoping the meeting goes well today for the OPs son.
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Maybe itās because my kids attended large schools, 18,000, 26,000, 36,000, that these questions are asked pretty often, and the advice received has worked out well. I doubt there are employees scouring the many Facebook pages trying to find guilty students.
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I do think the school size makes a difference. Iād think long and hard before posting on our small LAC page, even though we do have the anonymous option. But we do have parents post anonymously about tough situations and parents are extremely helpful.
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How did it go @lovelyhelen?
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