Any update?
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Well if your son allowed someone to smoke pot in his room and he broke a rule that gets him kicked out then he deals with the consequences because he allowed it. Itâs like serving a minor, you broke the rule. The responsibility of not having drugs in the room in on the person who signed the agreement. And seriously, if your son allowed his room to smell of pot so much that he got an RA called in him I just donât believe he wasnât getting high too, just because when he was a kid he didnât like it doesnât mean at 22 he wasnât doing it but it doesnât matter, he would be in trouble for it regardless.
Oh come on, have you ever been around someone smoking pot? And I mean within like 500 yerds of them. The smell is strong and spreads. Even with just one person smoking I can smell it from the street all the way up into my apartment. I have no idea whether OPâs son was smoking or not, but I absolutely would not assume that just because the smell was strong, multiple people were toking up.
I hope that is not what happened. That would seem wholly disproportionate to me. Hopefully the OP will come back and update us.
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But it doesnât matter if you or I think itâs disproportionate, itâs about the rules of the school and dorm. And he admits to allowing the kid to do it, he isnât claiming he didnât know how to stop it like others are saying. He had a friend over and he said go for it and now heâs in trouble. Iâm guessing he wonât get kicked out but who knows. Either way I donât believe he let someone smoke pot in her room if he doesnât smoke pot because 99% of the time the people who donât hate the smell and surely donât want all their belongings including bedding to smell like it, like you said it stinks up everything. But Mom wants to believe heâs innocent.
I hope this situation has been resolved by now. Please update us with the outcome if you want to do so.
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Iâm hoping the fact that heâs still in on campus housing at this point with no violations helps his case. My kids didnât want to risk infractions so went off sophomore or junior years. One of my âgeniusâ kids complained to her RA that someone stole her handle of vodka when she left her door unlocked (recently the dean of finance has asked her to be president of an honor society next year because sheâs #1). I love my kids, theyâre kind, smart (book), talented, but have made questionable decisions (that theyâre open about).
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OP: Hopefully your son hired an attorney for advice regarding this situation. Other than the advice posted by Hanna, you should ignore the suggestions in this thread thus far.
There are several legal issues including whether or not your so has the right to submit a written response in lieu of a personal appearance.
The only broadly applicable advice that I can offer based on the limited information shared by you in this thread is:
Do NOT admit to anything;
Proffer a written response tailored to the two specific charges.
Only submit a writing if assisted by competent legal counsel (a lawyer licensed in that jurisdiction who has handled similar matters with this particular school).
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She should also invent a time machine, otherwise any new suggestions as to what she should do would not likely be fruitful.
Hopefully the situation has been resolved, but the OP hasnât provided an update.
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I just assumed things worked out ok for OPâs kid.
I didnât see a new thread titled: âOh God, kid got kicked out, now that?â
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I do wish she would be return and let us know. This will surely happen to another student at some point, so it would likely be very helpful to know what happened. But, yes, I am inclined to believe that if she hasnât returned, most likely the situation was resolved without a big issue.
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