<p>Oh how times have changed. My freshman year at Emory in the 1960s another freshman on the hall had parents who called him 2 or 3 times a day on the floor pay phone. At the winter break everyone had to vacate the dorm. After his roommate left, he hung himself. The cleaning crew found his body the next day. Now you can get an injunction.</p>
<p>I learned the following story from CC quite a long time ago.</p>
<p>The D attended a college where there is a live cam installed on some busy section of hallway. People can log into the computer to see what the cam records in real time via Internet. Her mother would somtomes stare at the computer screen the whole morning, hoping to catch a glimpse of her loved one.</p>
<p>Regarding the number of times per week parents call their child at a college far away, how many times do you call your S or D each weak on average? We call exactly one time in a week, always before his bed time during weekend, unless there is something urgent that can not wait till next scheduled call. He could call us any time though. (A rare event) but we refrain from calling him more often than our mutually agreed calls.</p>
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<p>Not to mention the psychological implications of the above, that is someone with way too much time on her hands. This is why I love having a part time job. I just don’t have time to get that invested in my daughters’ every move.</p>
<p>D2 usually texts me every day, but it’s typically along the lines of “Have a great day! Love you!” If I didn’t hear from her, I wouldn’t panic but would probably check in a day or two later.</p>
<p>D1 contacts me less often, but she is in grad school and is extremely busy. We talk when we can.</p>
<p>07DAD, it is also quite possible that they knew more about their son’s mental state than the rest of you did, and were justifiably worried.</p>
<p>Consolation, I thought the same thing might be possible.</p>
<p>I answered the hall pay phone on occasion, as we all did because we lived immediately by it. Once I came back to the phone after going to get him but he wasn’t in his room. The mom went off on me ranting that they knew he wasn’t studying, that he was wasting their money --on and on and on, really foaming-- which matched the guy’s end of conversations I had overheard while in the hall on occasion.</p>
<p>Also, his roommate after we returned from winter break confirmed that the parents were constantly on the guy about was he studying etc, etc. and accusing him of wasting their money. The roomate said that the guy was making good grades.</p>
<p>I guess anything is possible, but it fit with being hounded to death.</p>
<p>Yes, with the additional evidence, it sounds like you are right. How sad.</p>