My S met his absolutely wonderful gf (to borrow from JHS and deb922 ) on OK Cupid. I didnāt want to pry, but heard them discussing how their percentage of match (is that the correct term?) wasnāt all that high - maybe 30-50%. But she thought he was cute and I guess he was intrigued by her. I have no idea if they ātriedā others before finding each other, but they get along so well and are different enough to keep life interesting. She is a wonderful person and they truly love and care about each other. We get along very well with her parents - the fathers share the same profession and hobby.
S and Gf just celebrated the second anniversary of the day they met and I expect they will be together for the long haul. I will be very happy if that is the case.
My husband and I matched in the mid-90s. I had matches that high or higher with lots of people, though. Anybody who showed below a 50% match with me usually had obvious disconnects on politics, religion, or fundamental values like gender roles.
You can search for the criteria you mentioned before messaging. If someone messages you, you can choose not to answer if you donāt like the criteria you mentioned in their profile, or for any other reason. When I used the site, they did not have auto filtering. However, I expect most guys on OKC are primarily filtering based on appearance, and women a combination of match %, appearance, and meets check list type factors. I didnāt keep up with OKC for long The questions and related predictions can be amusing. I got the following, from highest to lowest:
More Athletic
More Scientific
More Mathematical
More Love-driven
More Indie
More Suave
Less Spiritual
Itās also amusing to be able to choose things like C++ as a spoken language or a body type of ājackedā or āused up.ā. My problem was more I like to take the time to write longer, meaningful, well thought out messages and get to know someone before meeting, only messaging a small number of persons and having an excellent chance of getting a reply to those messages. Modern dating sites seem to be moving in the opposite direction, although OKC is probably better than Tinder and most meet nearby on your phone type apps. The best Iāve found for my slower style is eHarmony, where I met the person with whom Iāve had my longest relationship. However, EH is losing members to the other sites, making their userbase too small to be worth the cost (at least in my area), and EH is taking unethical means to hide this.
EH removed the option to disable profiles, so if you want to take a break from being a paying member you are forced to either delete your full profile and all question answers (it takes awhile to get through) or let it remain up. Many choose the latter. EH removed saying how long it has been since a user last logged in, in their profile, so if no active matches are available, EH can match members with inactive non-members who left their profile up before leaving and havenāt logged in for years. They also no longer limit matches to ones meeting question/answer compatibility, which was originally their main selling point.
I just spent some time poking around on OKCupid and it made me glad Iām not single. Seems like a lot of work to find the needle in the haystack and some some stuff that is a little out there. Every other guy poses with either a baby (borrowed I guess as there are references to nephews and nieces) or a dog. They must think it attracts the opposite sex. Lots of shirtless selfies.
How did you poke around? Did you create a fake account with a fake name and email? Donāt you have to upload your picture? I was starting it yesterday and quit when I had to up load a picture. I could upload a fake picture. That seemed too much trouble.
Fake profile. I was amazed at the breadth and depth of questions one can choose to answer. Like super personal stuff. I consider myself pretty liberal and open-minded but it made me feel like an old prude.
āSpecifically how do you filter out potential dates? Can you limit the location, vocation, age group, etc?ā
And to answer you initial questions, Iām obviously no expert but the filtering doesnāt seem to work to great. No place for vocation I could find, I put in an age range but still saw profiles outside that range (plus plenty of folks that seemed to be untruthful about there age). For location, all you can do is put in a certain radius around a given zip code from what I could figure out.
Go in and play around with it. Itās definitely interestingā¦
nah. I just grabbed some random ad photo from the internet. It was pretty blurry but its not like I am reached out or will respond. I now need to figure out how to disconnect.
One of mine resisted online dating for a longtime but finally in the past year began using bumble. She said it is a lot of work. She automatically dismisses anyone who has photos showing how buff they are. She has gone on some dates but so far no serious contender.
I have several older divorced friends who have used several online dating programs. My older friends are more likely to use paid websites versus free app programs.
One thing my hair stylist and several other young women have shared is that it seems like the guys have a harder time deciding to see just one person. Even if they like you and are enjoying your company they are not able to give up the idea that there still might be someone better out there.
Within online dating, I wonder if there is a certain personality that gets addicted to the ego strokes and instant gratification of receiving likes and messages much like some folks do on facebook, instagram and other social media sites, and therefore doesnāt want to give that up even when they meet a suitable partner through it.
I tried for about 5 minutes. Pictures were ok. There were only 1 or 2 showing their chest. @doschicos What questionnaires made you uncomfortable? The introductory questions seemed ok to me. I didnāt bother to read more advanced questions that came after you had the account. Is it worth signing up/paying for A-list? Thereās a sorting option. I noticed you could have the list sorted in the order of closest to furtherest. They donāt filter it out but you can see close ones first.
@Iglooo It wasnāt the initial set of 15-20 questions but some of the others. You can look at someoneās profile and see how you match up and answer questions they chose to answer to see how you match. Lots of sexual activity preferences type questions in including ones related to BDSM.
Yeah, you can sort by distance, by match % and such. I didnāt delve in the A-list pay thingie which I guess allows you to see who looked at and liked your profile. If you donāt pay, you have to wait for someone to message you directly first.
One thing I found kind of funny was you could include on your profile what your relationship is like with your mother via commenting in that section. In my browsing, I came across a few real mamaās boys. haha.
) on OK Cupid. I didnāt want to pry, but heard them discussing how their percentage of match (is that the correct term?) wasnāt all that high - maybe 30-50%. But she thought he was cute and I guess he was intrigued by her. I have no idea if they ātriedā others before finding each other, but they get along so well and are different enough to keep life interesting. She is a wonderful person and they truly love and care about each other. We get along very well with her parents - the fathers share the same profession and hobby.