<p>Last night before I went to bed, I was thinking that maybe the views that I have aren’t the way to go…I’m only a freshman and to have the mindset of “I’m giving up on making friends” isn’t good. I realized that I do have the potential to meet some great people.</p>
<p>What really made me change my view last night was thinking baout my current friends and best friends. I said to myself, “you should give these people a chance because the way I met my current friends and best friends was by giving them a chance.” (talking to yourself for the win! LOL). So yeah. After much thought, and some of you guys comments, I think I’m going to give making friends another shot. But something I would like to say is:</p>
<p>Can you guys not understand how frustrating it is when you WANT to make friends and you put EFFORT into trying to make friends and some people just blow you off? I’ve experienced this a lot last semester which is where my anger mainly stemmed. I was thinking, "I’m trying to be friends and you’re giving me the distant treatment? " </p>
<p>But anyways, coming from some of you social butterflies, what are some ways for me to make friends? I start college again next week (spring semester) and I really don’t want to start it off negative. Any things that worked for you guys who have solid/working towards solid friendships?</p>
<p>Sadcollege stud, I’m very proud that you’re entrenched so deeply in self inquiry. Life is a journey my friend, a process. Only you can find answers to your questions.</p>
<p>Hm…act interested in what people are saying, ask interesting questions, and it helps to have interested things to talk about before a conversation (if you’re just meeting someone you want to befriend). When you start hanging out, always be considerate of them. Just put yourself in their shoes if you’re at a party or something and try to be a good friend. Also, I’ve never been in a friendship where we didn’t make each other laugh a lot, so sense of humor is helpful. Just keep looking till you find people you click with.</p>
<p>Remember that having a friend does not mean that person must be joined at the hip with you. A person can be your friend even though he/she may choose not to be with you all of the time. Even friends need their own space to be with other people besides you. </p>
<p>Don’t get angry when someone doesn’t want to hang out with you. It’s their life and their choice. Do you have a problem with anger? Do little things upset you more than the average person? I’m just wondering if the things that make you angry are typical things that the average person wouldn’t think about twice.</p>
<p>Friendships develop overtime. They can’t be forced. It’s hard to explain how to make friends because a lot of it has to do with an innate ability to read people (tones in voice, facial expressions, subtle queues, etc.). Sometimes, the less you worry about turning an acquaintance into a friend, the more naturally a friendship develops.</p>