<p>I have just found out yesterday and honestly, my world as I knew it has been shaken
He will be 15 next month.
I know that it is not the last one, but it is sure the first that I have been informed about. Casually…
So things look different as of today. He sure looks different to me I have so many worries…</p>
<p>Remember the moment after your second child was born, you were holding a newborn in your arms and the big brother/big sister comes to the room, your firstborn, and suddenly they look big, mature, not your babies any more???
I had such a feeling again yesterday. Something has slipped from my arms into the big world of unknown . Happy and sad at the same time… feel like I have aged 10 years overnight ;)</p>
<p>I’ve come to the conclusion that DS has too many opportunities to do other things besides keeping a girl happy. Plus, your DD’s are not aggressive enough.</p>
<p>Congratulations on your S’s reaching a milestone.</p>
<p>For the first time, my older S, 25, has shared with us that he had a girlfriend. (He has had others, but never shared that info with us).</p>
<p>He lives a couple of thousand miles away. He sent us her picture. She was playing the violin and standing next to a picture that she painted. She has tattoos and piercings.</p>
<p>After taking a very deep breath, I realized that I am glad that he has finally found love and is comfortable enough to share this info with us.</p>
<p>S1 had his first real gf at the same age. They stayed together for two and a half years…broke up in fall of senior year. Would never have dreamed it would last that long when they started out.</p>
<p>Kelowna, we too just found out our DS has a girlfriend, though according to him he has had one before - just never shared the info with us! If I had known what a positive influence having a gf would be, I would have pushed for it long ago!! LOL!</p>
<p>DS 25 and DD almost 22 have never had a “significant other”. Of course they are older than the OPs kiddo, but I would LOVE for them to have a boyfriend or girlfriend!!!</p>
<p>My kid never had a functional girlfriend through his high school years. I mean, he had some stupid adolescent dramas with some stupid girls, but not a real, sustained mutual kind of thing. Last year in his freshman year at college he got together with what I consider his first real girlfriend. They seem very happy, are still together after a year now. He’s met her family when they’ve come to visit and gone to their home for Thanksgiving. We haven’t met her ourselves yet – just a quick “hi” on Skype – but we’re looking forward to it when we visit him at school in April.</p>
<p>I am really happy he’s found someone who is evidently sweet, smart, stable and who returns his affections. It has always been something he’s really wanted, and he’s such a sweet guy I’m sure he makes an excellent boyfriend.</p>
<p>I am happy to learn that my oldest had a date with a young man that is out of her normal comfort zone…not from high school , not from her college…and she actually saw that she can have things in common with people that are not just like her
And they really hit it off</p>
<p>The one thing S wants more than anything in the world is a girlfriend. He went out with a girl in HS for about three months, then she told him that they were never really dating because she was just cheating on her boyfriend. :eek: Knocked the bottom right out of his world. He’s asked a couple of girls out since then, and has been turned down every time. Poor kid.</p>
<p>Kelowna, I smiled when I read your post.<br>
I learned that my S had a girlfriend when my friend saw them walking home from school and called me on my cell phone. She was a year older and started college this yr. They recently broke up and again, I heard about this from a friend on mine! With Facebook and texting now, we don’t get to see the kids communicate with each other. When I was younger, I remember taking the phone w/the longest cord and bringing it into my bedroom for privacy!
Anyway, S is waiting for the acceptances. One of them is her school. I wonder if it’s still a top choice.</p>
<p>Oh, Kelowna, I know exactly what you mean. In the last year, both of my boys have developed girlfriends. It has been shocking! One is 15 and has been seeing the girl for 10 months and the other is 19 and has been dating his girlfriend for 15 months. I felt more relief when the oldest started dating, as his high school years could be described as a series of hook-ups. He used to drive me crazy, with jokes about it. We found out about our younger son’s girlfriend when my husband went to the school to speak at “career day.” A boy approached him and said, “Mr. Toledo, does “Susie” come over to your house all the time?” Of course, H had no idea who “Susie” even was, but we made it our mission to find out who she was. We were happy to learn that she seems to be a very nice girl.</p>
I have so many worries…</p>