First - thanks to you and your husband for your service and sacrifice. This is a great illustration of how military service can be difficult on the family - big plans need to be re-worked at the last minute because of an unexpected change in assignment. I am confident you’ll like the weather in San Diego better.
A CC in the San Diego area (rather than Fresno State) is probably your best bet for Fall - then transfer to SDSU or CSU San Marcos after you earn your 60 units. SDSU is very competitive for transfer admission. Attending a CC designated ‘local’ to them will lower your admission threshold significantly.
Their local admission area CCs are Cuyamaca, Grossmont, Imperial Valley, San Diego City, San Diego Mesa, San Diego Miramar, and Southwestern.
Many schools make accommodations for active duty military and their spouses so, reach out to these folks and see how they can help map your path to (and through) SDSU.
http://arweb.sdsu.edu/es/veterans/staff.html
I hope it all work out for you.