Have any of your kids used dating sites? My daughter recently moved to a new city and registered with one. One guy she was connected with but hadn’t met yet is an X-ray tech.
She started her new job today and was introduced to her nurse. And her Xray tech. Oops! Awkward.
My relatives have had success with online dating. One met and married her H that she met online. The other is in her 2nd very serious relationship with someone she met online. They are very compatible and talking about their future together. So far, don’t think either of my kids have done online dating–yet.
My BIL met his soon-to-be wife on a Christian (Catholic?) dating site.
I’d say about half of my friends who met their SO post-college met them through online dating sites.
Both of my sisters were divorced and lonely. They both met their current/second husbands online through Match.com I believe. They are much happier in these relationships than they were in their first marriages. Funny enough, one sister met a guy who went to our high school (graduated the same year as my brother) but lived in the same area as my sister about 35 miles from where we grew up.
Also know of people who have met/married their partners this way. And I think it’s cute that the X-ray tech she met at work is the same one she met on line. Doesn’t seem like such an extreme coincidence.
jym626–it is destiny???
Could be!! We call it Beshert.
I know several people who met/are dating or have married someone they met on line. One was a long time ago when the ads were in the classifieds!!
A friend has had both a daughter and a son meet and then marry people they met through a Catholic dating site. I know others as well who met spouses or serious “others” through more secular sites. Way of the world??
on line dating is awesome…you meet people you would never have met under normal circumstances. you need not approach a person in the store or in class and try and break the ice and face a rejection in person. when you go on a first date with someone you met on line you both know why you are there …and it may or may not work out but it really expands your dating pool.
and while you may meet a person with lots of issues, baggage etc…that happens with old school dating too.
I give it two thumbs up!
My daughter moved home (city) after college. Some of her high school friends returned also but all are busy adjusting to life post-college - job, etc. Daughter got together with them on occasion but didn’t date - fine as she worked hard and relished her quiet time. But after a while …
Anyway, I encouraged her to look at the dating app (app, not site) Hinge. She “talked” online with a number of interesting young men. She met up with three (over a couple months) - all nice. She went on four or five casual dates with the first young man. She liked him - but no more than that. She met the second young man for lunch and thought “meh” - not sure if she’d go out with him or not. Looks like he felt the same way as they never met up again. She had a great time with the third young man she met and thought he was really nice. The “really nice” and “great time” continued. They got engaged Sunday. (And she was right … he is really nice.)
A couple of years ago, I asked my daughter how she met people she might want to date. Her work place at the time was almost 100% female, she was in a master’s degree program that was 70% female, and almost all of her male friends she ever mentioned were gay, and the straight ones were coupled up. She said “The online dating sites are so good if you use them well that if you aren’t dating people who are interesting and decent prospects it’s because you are choosing not to, not because you can’t meet people. You can pretty much meet as many people as you are willing to make time for.”
What she wasn’t telling me back then was that she already had a bona fide boyfriend she had met via OK Cupid, which was not even her favorite site. Two years later, he’s still her boyfriend. He’s a great guy, smart, educated, interesting professional job, good-looking, competitive athlete. (We knew the relationship was serious when we found out she was playing touch football with him and his friends regularly. She had never had the least interest in sports before.) They are really compatible in all sorts of important micro ways.
If that’s what online dating means, then it sure gets thumbs up from me. I should probably note that they both live in Brooklyn and work in Manhattan, so they were in the middle of a huge community of educated, ambitious twentysomethings. Online dating may not work quite as well in smaller communities (but then it shouldn’t be as necessary there, either).