My D’s dates via Tinder were ideal, no hook-ups. One took her to an expensive restaurant, 2nd date was the movies. The other to karaoke (not that I ever thought she’d do that. Also coffee dates. This is the one she’s still friends with.) But my D can hold her own. And as she worked through the lists, she could see who was an opportunist or goof ball or worse. Not so naive. Didn’t need a random hook-up, had plenty of fun in college. But she’d been away on a post grad and wanted to meet guys. She dropped Tinder because the good pickings were slim.
Her fiance was barely employed when she met him on OK Cupid, but they clicked. A lot of laughing, their first phone convo was 3 hours. He lived 50 miles away. Again, first date was a nice dinner out. She came home and said, he’s the one. No rustling in the back seat. She had already invited him to meet us.
I just know so many who connected this way, it’s the 21st century. You wade through unsuitables, with your head screwed on right. My older friends manufacture a way out, if it’s boring. This is not just about kids and hookups, unless that’s your only- and superficial- goal. (And if it is, that rustling could happen no matter how you meet.)
No need to suggest I’m unaware of what else went on, this is my TMI kiddo.