<p>From Jym: </p>
<p>
I can’t wait to hear them!</p>
<p>I’ll bet you have some doozies from your nieces wedding as well!</p>
<p>OK I’ll throw one out there. Fortunately I suggested to my SIL that she keep a mental list of the ridiculous things peple ask her to do, especially in the last week or 2 before the event (thats when they seem to come in) when she was planning her sons’ bar mitzvah, so she was able to laugh this request off. My SIL is not jewish so had no experience planning a bar mitzvah. And she was doing 2 together as one of the s’s has developmental issues. She did a great job but it was a learning experience for her. She is a great seamstress, so was making a wall hanging with her s to donate to the synagogue. Her sister called and asked her (my SIL) to make her (the sister) a dress for the party. Really?? Like she had nothing to do in the last week or 2 before this event, that she has time to get fabric, a pattern, measurements and sew a dress for her? Really?</p>
<p>OK who is next.</p>
<p>“Have the wedding on a Monday because we don’t drive on Saturday, and you live so far away.” (No we don’t, YOU live far away!)</p>
<p>MIL and FIL to H (just before our wedding). “Can you postpone the honeymoon a day, so that we have a ride to the airport?”</p>
<p>“Have the wedding on a Monday because we don’t drive on Saturday, and you live so far away.” (No we don’t, YOU live far away!)</p>
<p>lol</p>
<p>Wow…they actually asked you to move the wedding DATE? </p>
<p>Gosh, I guess we’ve been lucky…no weird requests. However, I did have a FIL who would “drag his feet” to delay going anywhere…he would keep everyone waiting and waiting…ugh!. And, my MIL had a horrible history of arriving late to her kids’ weddings (arriving during the MIDDLE of the ceremonies!!!), so we had to fib to get her to our wedding on time. 
)</p>
<p>*
Location: we call it California, not Cali*</p>
<p>:) totally agree. Who came up with this “Cali” business. I don’t know anyone from California that calls it “Cali”!!!</p>
<p>Really only a minor irritation, but my BIL (soon to be ex-BIL) would wave his cup at me when he wanted more coffee.</p>
<p>^^^
With behavior like that is it a wonder why he’s a soon to be ex? lol</p>
<p>This is an outrageous host request rather than guest request, but it has irked me for years.</p>
<p>When my kids were small, a relative (who will not be further identified) asked my husband and me not to bring our children to visit her home when they had colds or were otherwise even slightly ill because someone in her household had a chronic medical problem that could be worsened by minor infections.</p>
<p>Then one day, we brought our apparently healthy kids to visit this household, and while we were there, one of the kids developed an upset stomach – possibly caused by a virus. The relative was extremely angry and told us that we should not have brought a child to her house when the child was going to get sick. Evidently, we were supposed to have psychic powers and be able to predict children’s illnesses ahead of time.</p>
<p>Here’s another, from older s’s bar mitzvah:</p>
<p>Request from the parent of one of the kids going to our s’s bar mitzvah party that night (keep in mind we have to arrive early for photos and sometimes are so exhausted at the end of the evening that we might fall asleep in the hospitality room we have for guests to congregate):</p>
<p>from the kids mom:
“We are having a party at our house that evening and I have to prepare for it. Also, I don’t want to drink and drive. Will you pick up our child and bring him to your party and home?” </p>
<p>Thats kinda like asking the bride for a ride to her wedding. And helloooo, did she think we might be having a drink at our s’s event, maybe??</p>
<p>(Edit to add: I did arrange for someone else to pick up and drop off her kid. Why couldn’t SHE do that??)</p>
<p>That’s very funny Jym. You have to wonder what people are thinking. I have a friend who is the loveliest person in the world, but has a spectacular gift for getting other people to drive her kids to events or otherwise deal with them. She calls it “connecting with” people and never reciprocates.</p>
<p>I do have one from my niece’s wedding. Maybe it just irked me and no one else. When we finally got seated in the room for the dinner, one of the guests (I don’t know the person) came over and asked my sister if she could just take the centerpiece since everyone had seen it when walking in and it would look great in her house. The dinner hadn’t been served yet!</p>
<p>My MIL asked us to have a first dance at our wedding for her daughter who had had her own first dance at her wedding six days earlier. We ignored the request.</p>
<p>We did have cupcakes and sing happy birthday to my BIL because we got married on his birthday and I loved him. He was not responsible for my sister being a psycho. Somewhat responsible for his daughter being a shrew. But a more fun guy you would never meet. He was so touched and surprised to have been remembered at our wedding. I miss him.</p>
<p>jym, I surprised that you did that. I would have just politely said No, I can’t.</p>
<p>Want another? </p>
<p>From an out of town friend (btw, we had decided we were not hosting ANYONE in our home as we didnt want to pick/choose who could stay at the house and we were hosting a large brunch at the house on Sunday and wanted the place spotless):</p>
<p>OK from the friend:</p>
<p>“We don’t believe in religion so we won’t set foot in a synagogue. But we’d love to come to the party. But we bring our dog with us everywhere we go. Can we stay with you and bring the dog? She isn’t much trouble” </p>
<p>(ps, my s is allergic to several kinds of dog fur/dander)</p>
<p>We’ve had more than one guest ask us to chain OUR dog outside while they bring their precious princess dog. Um. No. Our dog doesn’t get chained and she hates being outside without people. The nerve of some people astounds me.</p>
<p>Been working too hard this morning…read this title as “Outrageous Grant Requests” - which I may or may not have made in the past myself!!! :)</p>
<p>At the Sunday brunch we hosted at our house after the bar mitzvah, a friend of my DH’s said to his young (preschool aged maybe?) daughter “go on honey, ask them”-- so she comes up to us holding a large stuffed animal of mine (made by the beanie baby company, but this was very large) that someone had given me because it was the breed of dog that we used to have before he died and they gave it to me to comfort me after he died)</p>
<p>So the kid comes up, with daddy encouraging her and right behind her, asking “can I have this stuffed animal?” I am still peeved at myself for saying ok, but what was I to do? What a ()$#%&%# set-up and awkward position to be in. Skeeved me off to no end.</p>
<p>
</p>
<p>My sister is getting married in just over a month. They live in Tampa, we live in the St. Louis area, and her fiancee is from Chicago which is where the wedding will be at. I am supposed to be in the wedding (a groomsman).</p>
<p>I was applying for graduate school and GA positions, etc. Her fiancee told me that I should be asking them for that weekend off as I was going through the interview process (uh yeah that’ll work). Now my sister text me a few weeks ago and told me I really needed to be at the rehearsal dinner on Friday night and was there anyway I could work around it and be there?</p>
<p>I am an athletic trainer. I work for a local PT clinic and high school. Friday night in September is a little busy with a football game and all… I’m sure if I talk to the varsity coach, he’ll be more than happy to just move the game! :rollseyes:</p>
<p>BTW, didn anyone catch how offensive this first comment was
even before the tactless request to crash at our house with their dog?</p>
<p>The bar mitzvah is the significant event. The party later is in celebration of the bar mitzvah. If you are going to insult us by saying you dont believe in religion and won’t set foot in a synagogue, don’t offend us further by saying you want to blow off the important, spiritual part but want to come to the party. </p>
<p>I seem to be dominating this thread, LOL.</p>
<p>jym, I would have said some thing like, “I wish I could but I promised my kids I would give it to their children one day.” </p>
<p>My sister had a full blown tantrum at the salon when I told her that her children (4 and 6 at the time) had to wait until I had my hair and make-up done before her children could.</p>
<p>
I’m not surprised in the least. jym once went far out of her way to help me, costing her at least an hour in traffic in the process.</p>
<p>Thanks again, jym. It worked out great, and Mariah won the gold!</p>
<p>I wish I thought that quickly on my feet, emilybee. I was just so astounded, and this kid was a spoiled brat and would have had a tantrum and screamed until I relented. Who needs that in the middle of a party?</p>