<p>You know the situation. You like a girl a whole lot, but you really value your friendship with her. How do you overcome the fear of losing the friendship and tell her how you really feel? I SUCK at this :P. Very badly… Just need some advice.</p>
<p>Thanks,
-Ted</p>
<p>I think it all depends on the girl. If you’re scared of her reply (a negative one), than I suggest carefully reading her. Is she one of those shy,timid girls who may feel uncomfortable? or is she one of those ‘I can get over it’ girls?
If she is the latter, don’t worry, just tell her how you feel. My best boy-friend told me how he felt about me and I was quite surprised at first and I kinda said “i dont feel the same way” but we both got over it pretty fast and our relationship is just normal, just how it was before.</p>
<p>If she is the former, i dunno about this one… I guess this is the scary part… If she’s a nice girl, she’ll be nice about it. Don’t worry! If she’s a mean girl… well i don’t think it’s a good idea, having feelings for a nasty girl lol.</p>
<p>And there is the possiblities of her saying that she has the same feelings for you. If you freak out and not tell her, you might regret it later on. Don’t worry… most girls are nice!</p>
<p>I have been in experiences like this one. 2/3 times I lost a friend, so it’s really up to you. Is your friendship worth risking the chance that there could be something more? But worst case scenario you lose her as a friend, you move on and you make new ones.</p>
<p>I had a teacher who told me that for every friend you lose, there’s 50 more people you could be just as good as friends with and for every love you lose there’s 50 more people you could fall just as much in love with.</p>
<p>If she’s one of your closest friends, lay it on her.</p>
<p>If she’s just merely an acquaintance that you occassionally talk with at school, don’t risk it. </p>
<p>From experience, I lost 2 not-so-close friends from telling them how I felt, but the one I was close with didn’t really care too much, except she didn’t want to be anything more than really close friends. Go figure.</p>
<p>I know, life’s weird sometimes.</p>
<p>Celebrian… that’s actually kind of depressing, given that the world population is over 6 billion, and it’s very unlikely you’ll meet one of those 50 people :-P</p>
<p>What do you do if you’re scared of drifting apart?</p>
<p>ive lost 5 different girls due to telling them my true feelings…quite depressing
we just drift apart after a while, and then its gone.</p>
<p>i would tell you to just wait and see what happens, but that’s just my experience.</p>
<p>Six years ago, there was this girl that I hung out with a lot. She was fun, she had a lot of the same tastes, and I really really liked her. I didn’t want to chance it though, so I just kinda didn’t really say anything. Finally, when she was going to go to a new high school, I figured “what the hell, might as well live while I’m alive, right?” I told her.</p>
<p>I’ve been dating her now for almost six years. It can pay off.</p>
<p>i thought this was about two guys fighting for a girl or vice versa…that’s the situation i’m in anyway. my friend and i stopped talking (actually, he stopped talking to me) because we like the same girl…it’s stupid that we have to go through this. i’m still friends with him but he doesn’t reciprocate the gesture.</p>
<p>as for your situation, i don’t think i can help much. i think it’s inevitable not to have an awkward relationship afterwards. i don’t think the friendship you have now could ever be the same again but that doesn’t mean you can pursue a different kind of relationship with her. it just won’t be the same, i think.</p>
<p>I told her my feelings last night. They weren’t mutual, but she was really nice about it, and we definately want to continue the friendship. I’m a little messed up (I liked her for 8 months and she was basically my inspiration for waking up, but that’s my fault) but I’ll get over it. And the end result will be better than never talking to her again :)… Plus she said that she would tell me if her feelings ever change.</p>
<p>In the mean time, I’m back to square zero, with no plausible targets of romantic interest… Oh well.</p>
<p>A friend of mine called me up and said this one night: “Hey, do you want to go to homecoming with me?.. but as my date, not as my friend…” and then proceeded to tell me that he’s liked me for years and how he’s just gotten up the courage to tell me and all this. I was like… “Ummm… I think you’re a great person but not someone that I have any romantic interests in. I’d love to go as your friend but not as a girlfriend type “date”.” He then says, “Why can’t you see me in a romantic way?!? What have I done wrong!!!” LOL… How was I supposed to respond to that? The guy was crazy for me and I wanted NOTHING to do with that whole situation! Long story short I didn’t go that year… and we are now friends but in a really wierd way.</p>
<p>But… congrats, Visirale for finding the courage for saying something! Atleast the air is clear now and there aren’t any unknown feelings out there. Just be her friend… because “just friends” can turn into great relationships LOL!</p>
<p>[Huggles Ted] :[ Poor Ted. Don’t worry! :] I’m in square zero still! 
Let’s be in square zero together, buddy! :] Hope you find a nice girl who will like you back! ;D!</p>
<p>sigh…</p>
<p>I have a friend that I really like. I was afraid to ask her directly so I gave her hints. I made a mixtape CD for her and wrote her a letter. My last day of school ever, since I am a senior, I asked her out. She said yes. I was afraid that I was going to lose my friendship with her but it did work out.</p>
<p>i decided that i’m blocking out any romantic interests for now, unless someone really special comes along. you are not alone.</p>
<p>Same here rebel by choice.</p>